Parenting with autism

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Hi

I am an adult with asperger.
I don’t have children of my own but I do have children in my family.
They always refer to me as the one who talks to them. I usually talk to them about their feelings and how they should behave and what they should change about themselves to be happy human beings. And they always remember what I say and like talking to me.

Now I was wondering if this fits into someone who has Asperger’s ? I thought that people with asperger can’t do that.

Am I misdiagnosed?

I hope someone can help.

Thank u

I think this sounds very Asperger like to me. An NT would just talk about silly kid things and not try to be so serious. It can be a good thing.
I find it easier to talk with kids because I'm not held by them to all the social standards.

Thanks for the reply.

Yes I am very serious when I talk with children. I can’t really play games with them but I can talk about developmental things and how to form personality. I am a mental health practitioner (ironically) and I am very good at explaining a lot of things on a theoretical level. And I talk to those kids about how I perceive them and what things are going good and what things are going less good and how they can change this.

At my work I sometimes get criticized about how I explain too much without monitoring someone’s feelings. I am getting better at it though.

You remind me of my uncle - he hasn't been diagnosed but when my psych told me about AS and I learned it is at least partly genetic, I thought of him.
When I was a small kid, he was definitely my favorite adult. He talked serious to me, even when I was a toddler. He treated me like a person, not like some kind of a puppy to play with or train. And it was a great mistery of my childhood that when he talked to other adults, it usually ended with violent arguments over minor things. He was very skilled but couldn't hold any job because of constant conflicts with coworkers.
But with children all his creativity and out-of-the-box thinking surfaced and made him great.
I guess his conflicts with adults came from missing the social rules he was expected to follow - and children didn't know the rules yet so they accepted him as he was.

When I think of it now, I remember my boss (also Asperger's) and myself and my uncle - we all respect even very little children, see persons in them, and when interacting, we focus on them, not on ourselves dealing with them. Some kids get it and value it.

My mom is NT and she did this too.

I don't think it's an aspie thing. In fact I thought it was strange when I heard parents dictated what they were going to do on vacations and what house they were going to live in, where they are going to eat etc. and it didn't matter how their kids felt because that is not how we grew up in my household. Lot of kids in Montana thought my parents were strange and told them what they were doing wasn't normal. What was so strange about my parents? Treating them like they were human and that their thoughts and feelings mattered. There were occasions where my parents would decide what they were going to do and my brothers and I had no say in it but that was only sometimes.

O I don’t know what’s aspergers and what not. I just know that people tell me that I talk on a “higher” level with kids and that they don’t understand. I can’t play with them so the only thing I can do is watch movies with them and talk about serious things. Usually how they can develop into healthy human beings.