Judgment on me about my son

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As some know, I'm having trouble finding a place to stay. I still have a voucher, but I need some time.
My sister-in-law and my brother are letting me stay but only because I went to the ER to calm down.
It's fine. But, they don't want to go without TV for long and probably won't let me stay.
At my parents' it stinks bad.
I'm just trying to be comfortable somewhere till I find a place.
They say, "What about your son."
I'm like well, I can't be distracted all the time.
They don't get that. And, aren't willing to give parts of their lives up to help me based on my past.
Because of this most of my family thinks I can't be able to keep my son.
It's very alarming to me bc where can I go for help when this happens.
Yeah, I'm sensitive, and my family doesn't want to give up TV. My dad doesn't want to give up smoking for me. And, I need help.
And, I could actually lose my son. I would have to give up my blood because of judgements of "how can you make it in this world to care for him; we are not going to work with you, why do you trust strangers more than us to care for him"

I really wish I can just say f**k them all, and move on.
But I have to be careful because DCS was concerned I went to the ER. They are off my case now.
But, sometimes I think I can go to a family shelter when I look for housing bc my family is so judging. Then, I'm judged for this too.

I admit almost no place is good for me, but I'm really doing what I can.
And, it's not looking good to them.

I want to say f**k you all for caring more about TV than my son and I.
They act like they care for my son and say I'm a piece of s**t but still feel sorry for me.

Use the fact that they say they care about your son. Your son's best interest is to stay with his mom in a stable place where you both can function well and stay healthy. Foster care is a hit or miss revolving door that isn't likely to be better for him.

My house doesn't have a TV anymore not because anyone is sensitive to it, but because we have so many more options when we watch from our portable devices. If your brother and his wife each watch their programs on an iPad with earphones, you could all have want you need.

People without sensitivities really don’t know what it’s like, so they probably won’t give TV up for you. That might be a lot to expect. Most people wouldn’t give up TV, honestly.

Do you have the sensitivity or does your son?

Noise canceling headphones can help with the noise. Also, finding a place to get away from it would help, too. If you can still hear it in another room, you could turn on a fan or a noise machine to drown out the noise.

I do all these things fairly regularly, including when I was living with my parents. I’m pretty sensitive when it comes to loud noises.

Earplugs can also help, and they aren't as expensive as the headphones.

Giving up TV is a bit much, as people often have favorite shows they won't give up. Just like some Aspies have routines they have to do.