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MishLuvsHer2Boys
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04 Jul 2005, 7:56 am

I found out I was going to be a mother for the first time with no idea of how wonderful that son would be and that he'd be autistic and help me find out that I was an Aspie. That young man of mine will be 5 yrs old in February and has helped me not only mature but better understand myself and for that I am greatful. I am also greatful for my youngest NT son who has helped me realize that NTs aren't 'normal' they can be just as quirky and confusing and easily overstimulate and overwhelming as NTs find me. :)

Thank you to both my little boys, Dylan (Moderate HFA) and Brendon (NT) for making me a very happy mother and giving me the chance to smile and laugh when I normally would never have. I love you two my little men and think you two are going to be handsome young men and do whatever you want to be successful in life. :)



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04 Jul 2005, 9:05 am

MishLuvsHer2Boys wrote:
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I found out I was going to be a mother for
the first time with no idea of how wonderful
that son would be and that he'd be autistic
and help me find out that I was an Aspie.


The gift of life is a blessing! God bless it!

Mish wrote:
That young man of mine will be 5 yrs old in
February and has helped me not only mature
but better understand myself and for that I
am greatful.


The life of a child can be revealing of ourselves.
You see it in children all the time. They are part
of the parent. If the parent is receptive and
giving so is the child a reward in better understanding
of the parent.

If the parent is cold and isolated like mine, It can
be a negative feeling and that too can be the result.

In your case, God-Bless!

mish wrote:
I am also greatful for my youngest NT son who has
helped me realize that NTs aren't 'normal' they can
be just as quirky and confusing and easily overstimulate
and overwhelming as NTs find me.


I believe it is the conveyence of thought and words
that make overstimulation. His NT'ness is as native
as the HFA'rs, except the practice, and if in your case
you get overstimulated, it is the awe and wonder
of life you have given to the world. God Bless.

mish wrote:
Thank you to both my little boys,


Dylan (Moderate HFA), How old?
and What is the communication difference
between him and his brother. Hmmmm?
What makes him different as well?

Brendon (NT), How old?
And being neurotypical, how does his peer-to-peer
native communication skills work?

mish wrote:
for making me a very happy mother and giving me
the chance to smile and laugh when I normally would
never have.


How and what do they do that make you laugh,
cry, mad, sad. How do they get along, socially
and expressively? How does their HFA to NT
peer-to-peer skills differ? How does this parent-
to-child communication skill differ?

mish wrote:
I love you two my little men and think you two
are going to be handsome young men and do
whatever you want to be successful in life


What do they find themselves naturally attracted
to that expresses their characters individualism?

And Mish, God bless the life that brings life to you!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter



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04 Jul 2005, 9:11 am

Mish, I'm really happy that you were so fortunate. When I read what you wrote, It made me smile. I wish you and your family continued happiness.


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04 Jul 2005, 9:28 am

Ghosthunter wrote:
Dylan (Moderate HFA), How old?
and What is the communication difference
between him and his brother. Hmmmm?
What makes him different as well?

Brendon (NT), How old?
And being neurotypical, how does his peer-to-peer
native communication skills work?


Dylan is almost 4 1/2 yrs old and Brendon is 2 yrs old by the date of births noted in my signature.

Dylan has Verbal Apraxia and just after Brendon was born he had a severe speech delay (4-5 months expressive level at 28 months) and a mild receptive delay (22 months receptive level at 28 months old). Brendon started talking with single words from 6 months on, Dylan's first word wasn't till 34 months and he didn't distinguish I or his father as Mama or Dada till 36 months +. Brendon on the other hand is a slight to above average level in expressive and receptive language testing at a 22 months expressive and 24 months receptive at 20 months of age. Dylan does seem to want friends but he is happy to just be in the same room as others even though he has a hard time communcating verbally with others. Brendon on the other hand is outgoing, he doesn't waste time usually in seeking out others to communicate and interact with.

Ghosthunter wrote:
How and what do they do that make you laugh,
cry, mad, sad. How do they get along, socially
and expressively? How does their HFA to NT
peer-to-peer skills differ? How does this parent-
to-child communication skill differ?


Just their individualistic sense of what is humorous. A lot of it is the noise level, being touched (I have a hard time with it at times if unexpected). They can be clingy at times that overstimulate me. They get along well amazingly, Dylan does try to be protective of Brendon but Brendon is also very pushy and aggressive in expressing his wants and needs.

Brendon is very very attached to me... like velcro as far as a bond to me. Dylan and I share a different bond. A little more relaxed one. Dylan isn't a big talker, Brendon talks all the time and demands to be the center of attention when it comes to trying to get mine and his father's attention. Dylan's more subtle with that. Overall they get along like any siblings would only a few more screaming matches and all and aggression at times. Other than that they seem to love each other and enjoy each other's company when they feel like it. Brendon has helped Dylan out a lot socially and communication wise.

Ghosthunter wrote:

What do they find themselves naturally attracted
to that expresses their characters individualism?

And Mish, God bless the life that brings life to you!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter


Dylan's very much into computers, Brendon on the other hand would rather be doing physical activitity.

BTW You ask a lot of questions and I find your post very confusing and a little too analytical sorry. I'm not always good at expressing things on an analytical sense when it comes to social/communication abilities as far as my children.



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04 Jul 2005, 9:50 am

To Mish,

I then thankyou for responding, and goodluck
with this wonderful family of yours!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter



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04 Jul 2005, 11:25 am

I too smiled at this post, Mish.

Thank you.

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