How do I stop my 14yr old hurting himself when he's upset?

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Our son also began having melt downs at 14 yrs old. Could it part of how some aspies handle puberty? Whatever you do, seek help. We thought we could handle it. We had several meltdowns that had him hospitalized and we kept thinking we could handle it. He kept saying he wanted to end his life and a couple of months later, he stabbed himself. Luckily, he is physicall fine but is now in a residential home working on handling his anger. Find specialists that can handle his condition. For us, that was the hardest part.

I also agree with others that keeping calm is key and watching he doesn't hurt himself. Easier said than done but we learned the hard way. Good luck.

Yes, I only started having this trouble at puberty. I think my people hoped I would grow out of it and it would go away. It wasn't too bad until I was 21 or 22. A lot of it was due to anger that had sat and festered for years.

My son that is 5 is autistic and at 3 he put his fist through a window. Although he is much younger than your son he also has very violent outbursts. He bites himself he tries to destroy his surroundings and last year he was in a therapeutic hold in school as much as 5 times a day. While Im not sure it would help with an adolescent we helped my son by integrating a sensory diet in to his behavior plan. Whenever we see the signs of frustration coming on (with in the first couple of moments is important) we immediately start him in a sensory activity...jumping jacks, running, swinging, spinning, joint compressions etc. This year he has only been in a hold once all year so it has made a drastic improvement in his ability to self regulate. If your son likes running or a sport Id use it. Hope my comments can help. Myself, Im very worried about what it is going to be like to navigate teen age years with my son.

Wow!

I have one AS and one very suspected to be authistic, but we talk to school staff almost every day when it's school, so they are warned so we has never recieved a letter.

BUT since I and the mother of our three tornadoes doesn't live together anymore, and I'm being an enterprise network engineer, I simply remotecontrol my kids computers and rights to use software and go through the router. When my ex's smallest brother looked on the hardware, he just said "you did NOT buy that stack" to my ex.

I don't know how many times I've fixed paint scratches on my ex's car, broken windows, removed glass splinters from arms because of a unexpected tic, removed fishing hooks from fingers and so on.