Opinions on Costumes
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EarthCalling wrote:
Well, I could use an opinion. ................
My mother spent a lot of time trying to make me into something I was not. I could not dress the way I wanted to, I could not skateboard when we moved to BC. (She sold my $250.00 skate board for $20.00 in a garage sale behind my back). In the end, It backfired huge, it was obvious I was not who I was trying to present myself as, I seemed to lack confidence, and was generally eaten alive. In exchange, I missed out on potentially connecting with the small pocket of kids who shared my interests...
Still, a kid in a star trek jumpsuit could come home missing a few teeth...
Maybe I am over thinking this...
My mother spent a lot of time trying to make me into something I was not. I could not dress the way I wanted to, I could not skateboard when we moved to BC. (She sold my $250.00 skate board for $20.00 in a garage sale behind my back). In the end, It backfired huge, it was obvious I was not who I was trying to present myself as, I seemed to lack confidence, and was generally eaten alive. In exchange, I missed out on potentially connecting with the small pocket of kids who shared my interests...
Still, a kid in a star trek jumpsuit could come home missing a few teeth...
Maybe I am over thinking this...
And maybe not! Maybe wearing a Star Trek costume is for your kid the way to feel comfortable and brave. Maybe by wearing his costume he feels more brave and able to handle what causes him fear and anxiety. You were seeking thrills and 'fear' by scateboarding, he is seeking protection from the 'fear' and pain. You said this Sar Trek obsession came back after he broke his arm. Have you realized how scary it was for him to break his arm and encounter the pain he did? He needs the costume to gain back the feeling that he can stand up to fear and pain. Either help him understad his painful experience or just give him the darn cortume or do BOTH!! !
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My ds used to wear his costumes everywhere--park, grocery store. He was truly buzz lightyear and spiderman.
He still, secretly, dresses up in his room. His spider man costume is skin tight (funny).
Last year he was tye dye man. He created it. LOL. Very simple. Colored hair and tye dye shirt.
This year? Not sure. (had to use that one)
Yes, why not just let him wear his costume when he wants to. If he went back to wearing it because he broke his arm (quite likely), he will probably lose some interest once his arm gets better. It's pointless and cruel to stop him wearing it.
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