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22 Jul 2007, 9:01 am

salyed wrote:
Thanks all for the welcome!

This week has gone fairly well. My HFA son was very excited that I spent a few hours "allowing" him to beat me at Nintendo (actually he pounded me into the ground). usually he plays for about 1/2 hour per day with his NT sister and they are pretty equal on skills. I've also made arrangements for my family and I to go to a camp in August with organized activities (and a cabin and a cafeteria - yay!). We are going to do some fishing and canoeing and see what other activities catch his interest. I'm hoping that the family oriented camp atmosphere helps to decrease his social stress, rather than the typical "summer camp" experience. :D

Dave


Sounds great.

I'm the 57 year old step-dad of 10 yr old Aspie Z. I aparently have many Aspie traits but have not been dxd, not worried about it. I do seem to connect with Z on a level most other people don't and wouldn't trade the experience of raising him and his 10 yr old NT cousin for anything I can imagine. We share a love of nature, reading, Science, video games, and Ancient Mythology, oh we both are fascinated by all types of dragons too. I am religious, though I don't attend any Formal or recognized Institution, I'm too fed up with their internal politics and judgemental attitudes. I'm a proponent of free-will and respect the right of others to have their own system of beliefs, I only ask I that I be granted the same privelege. How boring would it be if we all thought alike?

Z and I can both be opinionated and stubborn, makes for interesting discussions.

Have fun here and let us know how that camp goes, sounds like it'll be great, though I personally prefer Primitive camping. Good luck!


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05 Aug 2007, 7:12 pm

Icarus_Falling wrote:
While my son's condition is much more severe than my own, I find that my own condition of probable AS gives me the ability to see into and understand my son's world better than many so-called "neurotypicals". We both have sensory issues; we both are easily agitated by unexpected change in routine; we both have more of a connection with our internal worlds than the so-called "real" world; we both have been obsessive rockers from a very young age; we both have trouble with eye contact; etc., etc. Whenever I am able, I use these similarities to act has his delegate in matters where he cannot express himself, or in coming up with techniques for getting through to him in various ways. I am not always successful, but have been successful often enough that I am somewhat thankful for this special connection we have - Icarus


Icarus, I would like you to try the following:

Since both you and your son like rocking and dislike eye contact and you would like to share activities with him, start slow and build up.

Use rocking chair, have your son sit on your lap with his back on your chest. Place your hands on the top of his arms almost by the shoulders, holding him. Apply presure on that spot until you feel that his body seems to relax. Now, by holding him that way, use your upper body and rock gently counting 1-2, 1-2, 1 is forth, 2 is back. Do this for a while and see how it goes.

From your son's reaction, I will be able to know how to proceed next so let me know.

Good luck,
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