Tips on discussing masturbation and sex with my son

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My son is 14 and has autism. He is at the age where he's obviously interested in sex. I had to put blocks on his iPad when I found the stuff he was searching. I know it is natural for him to be curious about sex but these sites contained hardcore porn that I was extremely uncomfortable with him seeing. Does anyone have any advice about how to talk to him about sex and masturbation?
Thanks, Sally

Assuming he isn't intellectually disabled, there isn't a difference in what he needs to know or might be curious about with regard to sex. Not knowing specifics about your son, he may be more at risk of being manipulated by someone else or not.

The same rules apply for someone on the spectrum the same as they do for everyone. (Curiosity about changes in his body, feelings he will develop towards others, STD/STI's, Consent (his and others), and all the other stuff.

A lot will depend on your relationship with your son, whether or not he feels comfortable talking about sex with you, and you with him.

There are many things in the realm of self-stimulation that can contribute to an addictive dilemma. Because for males there is a biological component driving things, you may suggest a limit (such as once a week).

Most people are familiar with the self-destructive progression of alcoholism. Stimulation of a sexual nature can lead to similar type of difficulties. One can fixate on a type of image that in real life would be disastrous to form a relationship with. There is even a danger of object fixation such as fetishes.