Bullied at PE class - suspended from school

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I'm so sorry that happened. I truly feel your frustration. Our son is in 7th and has been a target every year. He has been bullied so much, so badly that last year we threatened legal action. The school is REQUIRED to provide a safe environment for your child.
We also just kept the pressure on the administrators. Big time.
For example, we would shoot off an email to the principal, asst princ., or counselor, etc and not only would that give us instant proof of the communication, but we would make sure to CC his teachers and the result would be that everyone would know what was happening and noone could pretend they weren't aware. Nobody wants to look bad. Also, we threw out the fact that we had spoken with our son's doc and the doc would be calling to speak with them about how they were handling his bullying issues. We also let them know we had contacted various organizations (Tourette's Syndrome Association, he has tics, too) and were being advised and backed up on how to handle the problem. At one point, we insisted on a meeting with the asst and head princ(she normally doesn't get involved in discipline issues-whatever) and it took days to get it scheduled-so I called every afternoon until they could no longer tell me their schedule was full. We also threw out the name of a high-profile attorney that specializes in school/bullying/disabilities issues. The guy has a rep for not losing.
I have never been the pit-bull type of parent, I know AS kids can be exhausting. But they know if they were in our shoes, they would've done the same. We stayed on top of it, and we made sure they knew we were consulting with others which in effect, is letting them know that their reputation is at stake.
Best of luck and I truly hope this helps.

I'm so sorry your son is going through this. I know first hand how completely insensitive schools can be to bullying. As if it isn't bad enough that your son has had to endure the humiliation of bullying, but now he is basically being punished for their behavior. True, angry outbursts aren't appropriate, but if the schools would take some action on bullying, it wouldn't get that far in the first place.

Your letter is great. Stand behind your son, support him, make sure the school officials are doing their jobs. Hold them responsible for the safety of your son. Bullying is a form of abuse. He needs you to be his advocate. Asperger's amplifies everything, and at the same time prevents more appropriate responses.

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Yeh, you'll just /loooove/ to see what happens when he finally snaps and yells at a teacher, drawing himself to his full height. Apparently 'intidmation' isn't acceptable. Oooooh, I see, it's perfectly fine for kids to physically hurt me but the minute I snap at a teacher, I'm in league with the devil himself.

/Right, that makes perfect sense/


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Sorry, had to get that off my chest.