It was almost like he didn't have AS

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I just had to type something positive because yesterday was such an extraordinary day for me and my 10 yr. son. We started homeschooling (did it last year also) and I'm always anxious about teaching my son or instructing him because he sometimes gets things so confused that it invariably results in anxiety and then a meltdown of some sort. But yesterday he was agreeable, didn't melt down even once, took everything in stride and was a complete joy. I was stunned.

You have no idea what an anomaly this, because while I love my son and for the most part he is a great kid he has never been easygoing - he does things the hard way and does not always take our suggestions for help -it's almost like he likes to aggravate himself (if that makes any sense)

But I do notice a change in him as he grows and matures (will be 11 in January). One of his teachers at church said over that last 6 months she has noticed that he has slowly "blossomed".

It's just such a relief to see that some of his intractable, aspie traits that cause problems have lessened. I'm going to cherish the moment...while it lasts(LOL)

hi,
I am an Aspie. when I was very young everything was confusing because I wasn't 'on the same page' as everybody else'. As I grew older, I started getting the hang of it. The mere fact that you have worked with your son with patience and love through the rough parts will give you the grace to see him blossom and bloom into the fine boy he is.
And give you thegrace and inspiration to go through his adolescence when the hormones hit his limbic system!
good luck to you in all you do, mom.


all the best,
Merle

Another thing -- I found with my oldest son (now 21) that he improved while going through puberty. That may have been because we moved to a more social, lower stress academically area, but whatever the reason, he was one of the few kids I've ever known who had a great time while in middle school.

I think that I read somewhere that sometimes, going through puberty is one of the good times with Asperger's!

Kris

I have not heard that about puberty being a 'good time' for Aspies. I know mine was not.

well, I was a girl, and precocious and sexually awakened, and liked it.

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I have 2 of teenage Aspies, both boys and while I will admit they are easier than their NT teen brother, they sure aren't what I would call easy.

This is great news Rachel!! It gives me hope that things will eventually get easier around here!


Maureen

I think the symptoms improve with age. The psych I saw said I need to think back to how I was when I was child when she was having me answer questions to be diagnose.


I know when I was in my teens, if I say put my right shoe on before my left I couldn't tie my shoes (I still have some difficulty if I do that but it is possible to do.) If I brushed my teeth before I put on my shoes, I might forget to brush my hair (or put on a shirt). Now I'm quite flexible in the order I do things and even when I have a set scheulde to follow (ie wake up at a certain time, leave the house at a certain time) I don't have a getting ready ritual.

great news, rachel46! May the force be with you.

NB: AS a teenager, I did not have a hard time. It is now that i have it, some 10 years later... (Maybe an AS trait ?)

Please stick around, Kris, Z just announced from the shower last night, "I'm starting puberty! I don't want to have hair there!" I'm sure this will be an interesting period in his life and I may have questions.