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...found out they were Aspie after they discovered that their kid(s) were Aspie? I'm starting to question that about myself. We thought it was the birth trauma that may have resulted in our 6-year-old son's Asperger's, but now I'm thinking it may be me (the father). I've been saying all along, "He and I are so much alike in so many ways."

My son and I are both Aspie. I didn't know the explanation for my differences until figuring out what was going on with the little guy.

My wife insists that I am Aspie. I didn't take her seiously until I took the Aspie Quiz and the results indicated that I am very likely an Aspie. Looking back over my life of "not quite fitting in" I tend to think it may be true but at 58 I'm not going to bother getting a firm dx, too set in my ways I guess. We can't blame Z's Asperger's on me though because I became "Dad" when he was 5. However the traits we have in common does make it easier for me to understand and deal wit him even though he is more Aspie than I am. I'm sure it is interesting to watch when we both hit meltdown status at the same time. Fortunately I've learned to be aware when this is about to happen and how to control it, but I've had decades to practice.

I wouldn't let learning you are Aspie after your child is dxd be a cause for guilt or shame. We haven't yet begun genetically designing our children and I hope we never do. There are times when I think about the Aspies I'm getting to know that I more than half believe my own signature. Love your child as much as you can and help him survive and succeed in this mixed up world. It can be fun, particularly when you don't do it in a conventional way.

Enjoy, we are a wonderful developing species!

Yep.

Once my son was diagnosed,
I read up on it.
It appears to have a strong genetic component.


*sung to the dr pepper theme*

He's an ASPY,
I'm ASPY,
wouldn't ya like to be an Aspy too?

Yup. I didn't know anything about Autistic spectrum disorders until I started researching due to the issues my daughter was having. I realize now that she and I are VERY much alike. As I was reading information on Asperger's and HFA, I realized just how much it fit me as well. We also ralized that the AS/HFA thing really fits my husband too. I'm speculatively diagnosed by a psych and my daughter was diagnosed HFA. most likely Asperger's this past summer at 9 years old.

I was diagnosed 2 years (at 31) after my oldest son was diagnosed in 2003.

I'm not sure if I'm diagnosable but I identify mostly with Aspies. I never heard of it or "high functioning" autism outside of Oprah,some news shows and of course Rain Man. My son is autistic and for a few years I just believed the literature that stated parents had some "traits". My husband had all the developmental delays and much of his current behavior. I didn't have any delays until I was 7 when I didn't socially fit in or understand a lot of humor.
Husband doesn't really appear like an Aspie and he certainly isn't "disabled". He does have a lot of coping skills for sensory issues. But emotionally and socially, I'm much more of the misfit.

My ex partner (my son's dad) is definitely aspie. When me and my husband were having J assessed my ex said, "J hasn't got this syndrome - he's exactly like me and I haven't got it"!

A little bit in denial?

I'm worried my child may inherit aspergers. I don't think I have it, but I think my husband actually does (ironicly) he's very intellegent, hyperactive, obessive, and has a lot of the quirks that are associated with aspergers. ((I think it's cute, like when he gets excited about something he's do a drumroll thing and let out a squeel of joy)) On the other side, he thinks he's partially ret*d because he has a hard time concentrating and learning new things. He's often frustrated by how others think he's so smart, but he just can't seem to focus long enough to accomplish much. I don't want our kid to suffer like that. Tips?

hubby was dx-ed 2 months after son

I used to call people like me "misfit toys" like in Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. People like me would like a Charlie in the Box, a squirtgun that shoots jelly and a train with square wheels. Then I found out that there was a real name for the misfit toy people.

My kids are diagnosed first but when I realized how much I was like them, it was easier to know what they needed.