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I am looking for some advice.

Does anyone have a child/children on the spectrum who didn't demonstrate lack of eye contact and/or tactile sensitivity as a toddler but developed these things as they got older?

Thank you.

My son had almost no eye contact at 3. A lay person wouldn't notice his lack of eye contact now. He makes a great effort to look at people's faces and eyes during conversation. He didn't receive therapy for this, he did it on his own.
At that earlier age, he seemed out of touch with his senses and gradually, after 5 years progressively got more in touch with them. For instance, he had no negative reaction to extreme cold or extreme hot. He didn't respond "appropriately" to pain. He's more typical these days. Except with fabric, he's more sensitive to bed sheets now. I don't know about clothes because I've only dressed him in cotton. He prefers sheets that are "cold" and soft like 100% modal and jersey knit (cotton).

My son has always had good eye contract, but he has a flat affect instead. Basically expressionless until you speak to him.

As for the sensory issue, the only thing I remember was that he absolutly couldn't stand the tags in the back of the shirt. I had to cut everyone off or he would go bonkers.

Now that he's older, his tactile sensory issue's are more with the feeling of his sheets. I can buy the highest count egyption cotten, but he still can't stand them. Now he sleeps in a sleeping bag at night thats more like flannel. He is also loves heat much more than he did when he was younger. He is now 11.

Ok I am a real stupid mum My son J is and was always in your face made great eye contact, was very touchy feely, would climb all over me stroke my hair etc.
He was diagnosed adhd because of all this. He also would often complain that his ears hurt, he did however have alot of ear infections when he was little. Although now I realise he complained about hurting ears more often than he had ear infections, and the pain would go away sometimes within minutes. Senstive hearing?
He also now I realise is complelled to touch everything Another sensory issue. I have also noticed that when he talks to us he appears to be looking at us but if you look closer he is watching our mouths or looking slightly off ( if that makes sense) not always though. Usually eye contact is reasonable with us.
When he was little he had issues with socks, tags and track suit pants.
He still wont wear track suit pants, some tags now still has issues with but not all, and socks seem to be ok.

My son has always had great eye contact, but he does have a flat affect as well. He can smile when he's happy and make a sad face when he's crying, but he can't do angry, disgusted, surprised, worried, etc. He literally cannot move certain parts of his face, like his eyebrows.

He was also very undersensitive to touch when he was a baby. Nothing bothered him, he couldn't feel pain in his legs, never complained about any kind of touch or anything. He was always climbing onto my lap, loved constant hugs, his arms are like two wet noodles when you wiggle them. After 1 year of occupational therapy, he started to be the opposite and complain about pants and blankets hurting his legs, but that didn't start til he was almost 4 and he still doesn't seem sensitive in the top half of his body. He also still has extremely low tone in his face, arms, hands, and upper torso.

practice this with your child every time you spend any time with the child, when it comes to some things, especially aspie stuff like that, you TEACH them with your self being the example, if your having a hard time with the eye contact your self you may be teaching by example to the child without realizing it.

I disagree - you can use so much energy maintaining eye-contact, all the important stuff, like the content of a conversation, goes missing.

My son always had and has good eye contact, but, his sensory issues got much worse as he has gotten older. He can't even wash his hair anymore and has to rub it with a washcloth because he can't bear water "hitting" his head.

His eye contact is not good with strangers but with people he knows it's good.

This is true for me. I can either do the eye contact or follow the conversation, but not both.

My son only manages seconds of eye contact when he is talking to you, but then he hardly talks to you more at you and about what he wants to talk about x

our son did not make eye contact until he was about 5 1/2 - 6 yrs old. eye contact does not seem to be so much of a problem now. it was never a big deal at home, but school teachers did not like it and would always mention it. we just said to him that it is better if he looks at least in the same direction of the person talking to him. if he doesn't want to look someone in the eyes, look at their nose or something else. before he would just completely look the other way.