Ok its over for now, kinda,
what happened was that while looking for witness's for my custody case
this one child whom would have made a good witness but that I could not approach
because I was not sure of his last name and he lived next door to our old home
that I was restrained from coming near was out visiting one of his friends,
so I finely was able to talk with him, he told me he did not want to get involved,
BUT, he also told me in front of another witness that my EX's two older boys
had been molesting their younger sister soon after I was kicked out but before they moved,
this of course concerned me, those children I helped raise, I loved and cared for them,
and those older boys I could actually see doing stuff like that, the oldest was supposed to get counseling
and me and my ex set him up for it right before we broke up, but as soon as we broke up she dropped the issues
and did not pursue getting the child any counseling, and add to that my child has to grow up
with them around, to me thats scary if they are doing that kind of crap.
I wanted really bad to keep it in the family and talk with my ex even with all the custody fighting we have been doing,
but with her damned restraining order if I just sneeze her direction she tries to get me into trouble and jailed,
she basically left me no option on resolving this issue and worry other then to report it to CPS for them to investigate,
I must admit a part of me wanted to piss her off with all the crap she has been putting me and our child through,
but honestly, if she was to have left me some way to communicate with her privately I would have done things that way instead,
after all, I will still have to deal with her for years to come, I didn't want to make a life time enemy out of her,
CPS investigated the child and my other witness, they collaborated what I told them,
then they went out and talk to the little girl in question and the two boys,
the girl and boys denied anything happened,
I feel its good if nothing really happened, that its better safe then sorry,
or if something did happen its even less likely to keep happening now,
but I ended up pissing so many people off.
a part of me wonders if I had done the right thing,
but I didn't know what else to do to resolve the issue so I could sleep better knowing my little friends was not getting abused.
in a way I feel its her own damned falt because of her refusal to communicate with me about our and her children and the issues at hand,
she just wants things her way and not to be reasonable about things, she is hurting more then just me because of that.
besides, perhaps knowing how she just felt about what happened maybe she will stop and reflect more on how she is making me and our child feel.
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05 Mar 2008, 12:20 pm
