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My 7yr old son came home from school, and told me how the class were making flowers for their mothers for Mother's Day. He started by saying that he had made me a flower but it wasn't as good as the others in the class. He then said that his (male) teacher then replied that his mum would be disappointed in his flower.

Asap I reassured him that I was going to love it, because he made it. It was like he was preparing me for a let down.

Im going to praise it to the cows come home!! !

I just cant believe this teacher!

How could a teacher say that to a child? What an ass.

People can be jerks at times.

That teacher was a jerk! It was wrong of him to say that to your son, and you should complain to the principal. But if your son seems dead-set on giving you the "perfect" flower, you can offer him a compromise. Tell him that he can give you whatever flower he has, because that's what he made for Mother's Day. However, also give him an opportunity to "make it up to you" by making you a nicer-looking flower another day. This way, you can still praise him for his work, and he'll have a chance to make something he thinks is better.

Stupid stupid idiot!! !! !! !!
I would make a point of going to school with him on Monday and making a big point of saying what a wonderfully unique flower you got off your son for mothers day. A special flower from a special boy.

What an awful teacher!

I found with my second son, he hated doing set art projects. When the kids were told step by step how to make some art for mother's day/father's day etc he would make a mess of it.

However, when the kids were allowed to do whatever they wanted, he would produce fantastic pieces of artwork. A lot of the other kids wouldn't know what to do and would copy him.

Helen

Oh that makes me sooooo mad! I would definitely go in and talk to the teacher, and tell him that this was completely unacceptable!! !! What a horrible thing to say to a kid!
I know that sometimes adults have thought that my sons weren't trying/didn't care, because they were getting poor results at a task and/or were tuned out, and have been pushy or critical when my sons needed acceptance and encouragement. But saying that was downright mean!

My sons also really struggle with set arts and crafts projects, but absolutely blow everyone away when given a little creative freedom.

just make sure that that's what the teacher said.........sometimes our kids do misinterpret other people's statements......

Well there's more to the story.........

I went up to the school on Friday afternoon, in the morning I sent a note explaining what my son had said.

And apparently, the teacher explained to me how the class had to make a flower a certain way, (the teacher also told me that he also had a teachers aid to help him - the teacher (not my son)) but a little help went my sons way.

My son had alot of problems making this flower that he started losing it, and was really upset with his flower (it wasn't like the others in his class) he also started fighting with another boy, my son then proceeded to throw his flower in the bin and demanded the teacher that he make another one because it wasn't good enough. Apparently thats when his techer said that "I would be disappointed".

How could this problem been avoided? What would have been the best thing for the teacher to do?

On a brighter note, when I collected my son the teacher had told me that my son had won 2 tickets to see Parramatta eels V's Dragan's this Sunday and he also gets to run out with one of the players onto the field.

It sounds like your child’s school does not have all of your children’s teachers properly educated in Aspergers/spectrum support needs. Sound like a good event to use to insist on it. Sounds like time for an IEP meeting.

bookwormde

sounds like the teacher cares.....just sounds like he/she hasn't gotten concrete language down yet.....hopefully, the teacher will now realize how your son misconstrued the situation, and is willing to try harder next time to use more clear language with your son