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rottenlittleboys
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31 Jul 2008, 8:42 pm

Rainbow-Squirrel wrote:
Hey, why "rotten" (in your nickname) ? That doesn't sound good... :scratch:



'Rotten' as used in an endearing sense. :D



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31 Jul 2008, 8:44 pm

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I'm an adult aspie and I still find that I've usually "had enough" after a couple of hours or so at another place. If it is very noisy, hot, smelly, or whatever - the time is shorter. Mum doesn't remember my behaving worse after a time when I was visiting other kids years ago but in some ways, I think the aspieness has got a bit worse in recent times.

The best explanation I can give for aspie kids misbehaving, getting upset etc. after being at another child's place for more than a certain time is they just get "peopled out" and want to retreat to their own space at home. They'll often start showing signs of being fractious, such as getting teary, argumentative etc. and that is the time to say the goodbyes. Even NT kids get overtired and crabby if they have been out for too long.


Thanks for pointing this out. Sometimes I just can't see any other point of view, especially when I am frustrated.



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31 Jul 2008, 11:06 pm

I misbehave if I'm in stores too long. And I'm sixteen years old.

Nesting is a typical Asperger's behavior. Nesting means that a person with Asperger's only feels comfortable in a few select locations. Outside those locations, the aspie becomes excitable and possibly overstimulated. They quickly reach a saturation point and become bored. And bored children misbehave.

To destress your son, arrange shorter playdates. To help him build up a tolerance, go on more frequent playdates.


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03 Aug 2008, 11:32 pm

rottenlittleboys wrote:

Do yours or did you do this as a kid? Does my kid just have a short expiration date on playing with others? :lol:


Is your kid playing with NT's or other Aspies? I found even as an adult when I am around other Aspies my behaviors get worse.

I agree with the person that said he is probably getting peopled out. I get that way myself. If I go to say a company picnic I get peopled out real quick like within 15 minutes I feel like running for my life. I also have OCD really bad and want to hurry home and shower then put on my pajamas because I think other people are dirty and clothes worn outdoors are too germy. So maybe your son has feelings like this as well.



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04 Aug 2008, 7:36 am

yeah, I'm 28 (just turned recently) and had that problem just yesterday. it sucks for me, cuz the rest of the family (immediate and extended) are NT's....and they say they understand...but they really don't...and I get yelled at for sitting there moping...or for slamming a hockey stick onto the porch that was resting on a car (in case the driver didn't see it and damaged the car)... :cry:


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