Parental Behavior about phone calls

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Why do Parents get rude and offensive when Someone calls and wants to talk to their son or daughter who has disabilities, instead of calmly saying They don't know the Person who is calling, even after the Caller tells the Parent His or Her name?

Also if the Parent isn't used to Their son or daughter who has disabilities, getting phone calls from Others, the question that should be is Why Not?

I think Parents are too often encouraged to think bad Things will happen if They don't do their duty as a Parent, because when Bad Things do happen the Parents feel reluctant to hold that Person accountable , who did the damage, but I like how more Parents are stepping up,but Parents are far too often conned into overprotecting their Children.

It's the overwhelming tendency of parents to let fear rule their actions. Not just parents, actually, humans in general. Remember, they derive a psychological benefit from being able to think of themselves as your protectors. It makes them feel important. Unfortunately, this sometimes leads them to overdo it. It's like a drug, in that way.

If you feel vindictive, start treating their callers the same way and see how they react when they find out. They may understand that what they're actually doing is offering you a less-than-perfect model to learn from. If they tend to overprotect you then they won't even realize that you're doing it on purpose and won't get mad at you.

This is not, fortunately, something that I have encountered. Overall, though, I think that phone manners have deteriorated in society as a whole.

Exactly what have you experienced that has you concerned? Could it be a matter of interpretation?

Wait- I'm confused. Whose parents? Are the parents the parents of the disabled person, or are they the parents of the caller? I have no idea who is who.

what age are we talking about ?.......i'd have less issues with someone calling to talk to my AS son who's 16, than i would having somene calling to talk to my ADHD daughter who's 9

Did you properly identify yourself and what your business was?

Many people are sick and tired of unwanted phone calls through out the day.

Friends would most likely call the mobile or use instant messenger.

Unknown person calling the land line has a 98% chance of being a sales person.

So,

OO ARE YER AN WADAYA WANT!!

Usually no one calls for my 14 year old. If someone does, I would probably ask politely who was calling before handing over the phone. If I suspect it's someone calling to harrass or bully I'd probably tell them she wasn't home, rather than feed negativity with an assumption.

My daughter is pretty good about naming her "friends" at school versus the mean kids. She is gullible, and does need some protection, but not from all of life. She handles herself pretty well too. Once a boy cut in front of her in the lunch line and she shoved him against a wall. Such things bring mixed reactions..as much as I had to tell her the action was inappropriate, I also told her good job, don't take it. Everyone saw it too. No one has tried to mess with her since. She hasn't done it again.

It doesn't create a sense of power in me to do this. I do know the world is full of people who need to learn some respect. She has terrible phone skills as well, so I probably would only allow a phone call from someone she's known long enough to know her. Just the way it is on our world.