I don't like hand flapping and stimming. Why do we use this language when describing someone with autism. When I'm nervous or very stressed--I might hand flap--who the heck knows and who cares. Does this mean I'm autistic? Why do we call it hand flipping and stimming?
It is what it is. I don't think of autism as hand flapping--not at all. My son might have done this--don't even recall. Sometimes he does that backward wave thing when he's thinking--very rarely. It's like saying that deaf people walk with a limp or on their toes or sideways. Or, that blind people twist their necks in a rapid movement. What would we call this? Maybe kneck wringing? Does it really matter? Why pick out these characteristics and attribute it to autism? I don't recall the rain man flapping his hands. Was he a hand flapper?
Maybe this is just an anxious response and has nothing, really, to do with autism itself.
The more someone is nonverbal, the more odd mannerisms become part of that person's repetoire of responses. Most of use language to express feelings and desires. People with communication issues use gestures. Deaf people use sign language. We don't say deaf people stim do we?
Where did the term stimming come from? Honestly, I despise that term--stimming. It sounds like a neighbor to masturbating. I think it's almost sinister to refer to children stimming. I've read about some parents talking about how their child stims and letting them stim at home or in private--odd. My son is who he is--all oddities and uniqueness are him. Why do we tease out these movements and gestures and call it something as if it is shameful? I think it contributes to the intolerance we have towards someone who is diffferent. I say this because these are the behaviors that are not tolerated. Many children are medicated and scolded and ostracized for this stimming and flapping. It contributes to disciminatory behavior towards autistic people. It is their way, whatever it is, and we need to think of the person with autism as a whole person--not as a person who stims and flaps. How about understanding autism as processing the world differently? Could it be that simple? The physical behaviors, gestures, are simply manifestations of someone who process the world differently. We would never suggest that beethoven flapped or stimmed? What about Einstein? How degrading and dehumanizing, really. It's so 2007. I don't recall Hans Asperger coining these terms? It must be a modern development.
just my 2 cents.
equinn