How to behave at party

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Hello and help

My 12.5 y-o AS son is going to a party tonight. Adults (me included) will be upstairs, kids downstairs. DS has a great time at parties; very outgoing and social, but goes too far. Gets too loud, too silly. Other kids cringe. I want him to have fun but to be accepted. What can I tell him?

Can you tell him what the rules are and what he can't do there and how he shall behave?

Um, I REALLY REALLY hate to say this, but things of this nature can't be learned any other way than the hard way. You could tell him something that could be framed on this website, and chances are it won't make a difference. I learned all this stuff the hard way, and it has paid off big time. I'm still not perfect, but I'm more aware when I'm loud than I used to be. When I was that age, I had problems with partys and stuff. And I have mild AS. So I'm sorry to tell you, but he needs to fall on his face in order to learn this. When he does, talk to him about it and what he could do differently. If I had the luxury of having someone right after the party to tell me what I was doing wrong...

other than being in the room to monitor the party, there's not a whole lot you can do......depends on what you mean by "goes too far."....if you mean that he talks too much/too honestly- i have no answer for this. my daughter does the same- haven't figured out how to help her yet..................if you mean that he is in other's personal space or that he behaves inappropriately, then giving him behavior rules *might* work.

He can't be too horrible if he's actually included in social situations. So that is the postive side.

I think most helpful for my son are the friends who will always be his friends, who are willing to take him as he is, but also aren't afraid to tell him to simply stop a behavior. He doesn't pay attention anymore if it comes from me; he needs to hear it from friends. Not kids he isn't friends with; he couldn't care a less what they think. He needs to hear it from FRIENDS. Then, MAYBE, he'll work on it.