analyzing social skills

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Just thought I'd share with you all about a lecture I went to on Weds.
The presenters talked about how to help people on the spectrum generalize social skills. I wish I could say that they came up with some new ideas to help generalize, but they didn't.....they did, however, come up with a description of the path to learning a social skill that was new to me.
" Every social skill has 3 components. Thinking. Doing. Feeling.........When a social skill is not exhibited, it's because there's a breakdown in one of these 3 components. In the Thinking component, the breakdown could be that the individual either doesn't know what the appropriate action is, or feels that they already know the appropriate action ......In the Doing component, the breakdown is due to anxiety. The individual knows what to do but fails to do it because of anxiety........In the Feeling component, we attribute the breakdown to misinterpretation of social cues. in other words, the individual misinterprets what the other person is feeling & react inappropriately."
They suggested that when working on social skills, you pick just 1 or 2 specific skills to work on....then analyze why the inappropriate action is occuring....they also suggested a social skills checklist.....

Speaking for myself, I think they have it right but I think they have to put it in order...feeling is the crucial component.

1. Feeling
2. Thinking
3. Doing

Since many times we lack the ability to interpret what someone else is feeling, we are unsure of what to do (Thinking), when you are unsure of what to do...often you just do nothing for fear of doing the wrong thing (Doing).

.....i actually had it in the wrong order.........thinking feeling doing is the right order...........