Saying "no" is mean.

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Instead, say "How about you do one of these things?" and "The best thing to do this, this, that, that or anything else besides this." Or "This is even better than doing that."

LOL. Lot of kids think parents saying 'no' is mean. I used to think my own mother was mean when she say 'no' and she say she is a mean mother


Now I know she wasn't being mean and she was just being a good mother and doing her job.

Respectfully disagree - no is not mean, it is necessary.


M.

Its a parents prerogative to tell their child no, children need to have ground rules.

You can't be nice to everyone. True or False?

I do take your point, Ana, however, that using a different phrase is more positive and more likely to gain a positive response. Always good for parents to remember Sometimes, though, you just have to go with "no."

Parents should be spin doctors...

No wonder Max Clifford can't leave children alone.

In other words, totally submitting to that person is the only nice or respectful thing to do?

No. You are wrong.

i think for many individuals with AS, saying no needs to come with an explanation- as in, no you can't do that because you'll get hurt.........from my own personal experience, it never works to say no, because i said so.

So then how will they react when someone tells then no as an adult?

Sometimes I tell my son no with no explanation because we need to work through his reaction and teach him how to deal with it.

Does anyone find this kind of statement cringe worthy? Like when anyone make such a broad statement, it kind of make be think why am I bothering to answer, this has to be a joke.

[quote="ster"]i think for many individuals with AS, saying no needs to come with an explanation- as in, no you can't do that because you'll get hurt.........from my own personal experience, it never works to say no, because i said so.[/quote]



That always bugged me as a kid. I just thought my mother was too lazy to answer and I would do them anyway and yes I would get in trouble for it. I finally learned in my teens though because I got sick and tired of getting into trouble and the only way to avoid it was to listen.