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13 Aug 2012, 1:30 am

Just my two bits. If any one clams to be truly gender neutral than any thing said by ether gender would be understood the same way. I feel the same way with race if one can say it why not all If one can't than the statement is racist and should not be used by any. Not every one likes this but it would be the only way that equality has completely "come into its own".



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14 Aug 2012, 5:31 am

Dear johnny77, Absolutely right!

Let's take it further; should both genders be treated the same?
What if women watched and called out to attractive men on the street?
Tried to buy them drinks at a bar?
Asked for phone numbers and email addresses?
Offered them rides in their cars?

If a woman responds to any of these actions from a man and gets hurt, it's 'possibly her fault', right?
If she did any of these actions towards a man and got hurt, it would definitely be her fault,right?

Usually, NOT always, when a man is victimized by a woman, it is something like a prostitute drugging and robbing 'clients'...
When a woman is victimized by a man, it is usually rape, or attempted rape, and murder has frequently resulted, either that was the intent, or he thought she would tell.

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14 Aug 2012, 3:34 pm

The site's inflammatory and illogical.
However, I think that sometimes the feminist movement forgets that the goal is equal rights, not superior rights. There are many things about society that ignore women's needs. There are not so many that ignore men's. However, the feminist movement itself tends to not only ignore men but to vilify anyone with a penis, and that's when you hear the same women who drool over pictures of male celebrities and talk about all the sexual things they would do to them crying rape when a strange man politely smiles at them. Honestly, that just makes the movement look hypocritical, angry, and ridiculous. Just as there is a double standard in society, there is a double standard in all activism. I don't think it's appropriate for a man to catcall a woman on the street. But it's equally inappropriate for a woman to make sexual remarks about a man on the street. You don't better yourself by putting everyone else down.



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25 Sep 2012, 6:26 am

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that's incorrect, so it makes me suspect the site. one of the sources he quoted for that assertion was not legitimate, and the other one didn't support his point.


As you may or may not have noticed, one source was an excerpt from the other. The estimated number of women forcibly penetrated during a 12-month period was said to be 1,270,000. The estimated number of men said to have been forced to penetrate was 1,267,000. That seems to make enough sense, although it did not measure correctly to support that claim. As there were no known figures on men being penetrated - which, admittedly, would not constitute reliable or proper figures as men are not subject to that in general terms - they used the definition for 'being forced to penetrate'. That could be considered rape.

that (bolded) does not equal nearly identical rates of rape or sexual assault for men and women, period. that is what the first article misrepresented and subsequent articles requoted. also, that study was only concerned with various types of assault and abuse between long term partners, not for men and women overall. the MRA article did not make any distinction whatsoever about that.

here are some actual facts from the original study. the penetration numbers you quoted do not exist on in these summaries, so i don't know where you got that from.

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it's worthy of noting that women are over 10 times more likely to be raped by a partner in their lifetime than a man is, which is so very different from what the article is claiming. the original article's misrepresentation is pretty blatant and makes me distrustful of the site, because they are trying to changing public policy by manufacturing facts.

one article is even tagged "lying feminist scumbags" yet this article is also lying. that isn't just bad journalism, it's a rallying cry based on a deliberate misrepresentation.

what is interesting is that the same misrepresentstion is quoted over and over again in blogs and in comments on feminist articles and youtube videos, yet not one of those people bothered to do any fact-checking. you would think that ONE of them would have flagged that original article's misleading information. but apparently not.

i agree that there are some areas that need an improvement in equality between men and women (though we may disagree about which specific areas), but the MRA movement isn't helping that cause.


Sorry to dig up a month old thread but Hyperlexian, notice that the numbers you highlighted in bold to say is inaccurate, is exactly what is quoted in that study you posted the image of as proof that it was inaccurate. You just didn't read the fine print, look at it again. Instead of just looking under the category "rape", look under the heading "other sexual assault" and then look at the category "made to penetrate", there you will find the exact figure of 1,267,000 males being "forced to penetrate" that HisDivineMajesty was talking about. It is this figure that should be compared to 1,270,000 women under "rape" because the definition of "rape" in the report only defines it as "penetration by force", not including "forced to penetrate", which is included as sexual assault even though it should of also been included as "rape". Therefore, merely citing what the report cites as "rape" is actually misleading and HisDivineMajesty was correct. The figures are right there in your gif.

By the way, this thread should probably be in the PPR forum.



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25 Sep 2012, 9:54 am

One place I think a legit case for men's rights could be made would be in custody hearings.

I know a guy who's ex-wife drugged her kids so she could have sex with another guy while her ex husband was at work.

Despite admitting that in court, she almost won custody of the children.

There are also sporadic cases of male-hating judges not acting in the best interest of children.



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25 Sep 2012, 12:05 pm

As a man, I think feminism benefits me a lot more than these idiots.

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One place I think a legit case for men's rights could be made would be in custody hearings.

I know a guy who's ex-wife drugged her kids so she could have sex with another guy while her ex husband was at work.

Despite admitting that in court, she almost won custody of the children.
So, you mean she actually didn't win custody? Oh, we got such a non-problem here.


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25 Sep 2012, 12:51 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
One place I think a legit case for men's rights could be made would be in custody hearings.

I know a guy who's ex-wife drugged her kids so she could have sex with another guy while her ex husband was at work.

Despite admitting that in court, she almost won custody of the children.

There are also sporadic cases of male-hating judges not acting in the best interest of children.


I disagree, in part.

There is one, and only one set of rights that is relevant in custody hearings: the child's (and you seem to come to that in your last statement). Parents all too often suppose that custody hearings are about one parent fighting the other parent. Nothing could be further from the legal reality, and there are no fathers', mothers' or parents' rights to be considered.

No parent has a right to custody and access--these concepts do not exist in most jurisdictions (and, in my view, they should not exist in those places where they do). They are rights held by the child, that are enforcable against the parents. Children have the right to require their parents to exercise guardianship, to take custody of them and to exercise visitation.

Now, judges who uncritically rule in favour of female parents are wrong--not because they are biased in favour of mothers and prejudiced against fathers--but because they are not making the decision that is required in law: considering only the best interests of the child, and exercising no other consideration.


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25 Sep 2012, 1:12 pm

visagrunt wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
One place I think a legit case for men's rights could be made would be in custody hearings.

I know a guy who's ex-wife drugged her kids so she could have sex with another guy while her ex husband was at work.

Despite admitting that in court, she almost won custody of the children.

There are also sporadic cases of male-hating judges not acting in the best interest of children.


I disagree, in part.

There is one, and only one set of rights that is relevant in custody hearings: the child's (and you seem to come to that in your last statement). Parents all too often suppose that custody hearings are about one parent fighting the other parent. Nothing could be further from the legal reality, and there are no fathers', mothers' or parents' rights to be considered.

No parent has a right to custody and access--these concepts do not exist in most jurisdictions (and, in my view, they should not exist in those places where they do). They are rights held by the child, that are enforcable against the parents. Children have the right to require their parents to exercise guardianship, to take custody of them and to exercise visitation.

Now, judges who uncritically rule in favour of female parents are wrong--not because they are biased in favour of mothers and prejudiced against fathers--but because they are not making the decision that is required in law: considering only the best interests of the child, and exercising no other consideration.

I agree with you visagrunt; the kid's best interest should be the only priority but unfortunately judges tend to that kids are better off with the women due to the fact that she carried the child in her womb, gave birth to him/her & that women are generally thought to be more of home makers who raise the kids. Those stereotypes do tend to factor into judges decisions. Judges should consider each case & each parent as an individual in determining what's best for each kid instead of biased stereotypes factoring in to the decision


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25 Sep 2012, 1:29 pm

I'm not going to read through all the posts ITT; certainly not now. But I must say that I get extremely annoyed by women who continue to act weak and play the victim to gain the sympathy and attention of others in this post-feminist age. Overtly chivalrous men REALLY irritate the f*ck out of me just like those self-proclaimed "nice guys" irritate the f*ck out of women. I really think American NT women need to grow up and take responsibility for their OWN feelings of insecurity and self-inadequacy. That is, STOP using men and "the patriarchy" as a scapegoat for your own problems and why you aren't happy in life.



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25 Sep 2012, 1:40 pm

I"m not advocating that they should have a right to custody but they should have a right to be heard and considered on equal footing in court regarding custody.

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So, you mean she actually didn't win custody? Oh, we got such a non-problem here.


It should bother you that despite her admitting that in court, it was not a slam dunk case for custody to the father.



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25 Sep 2012, 3:09 pm

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I"m not advocating that they should have a right to custody but they should have a right to be heard and considered on equal footing in court regarding custody.


Agreed. And judges who foreclose procedural fairness act wrongly. No question.

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It should bother you that despite her admitting that in court, it was not a slam dunk case for custody to the father.


Well, we can't know what other considerations may have been in place.

The only case that should be considered a slam dunk is the case in which a child who is mature enough to express a preference makes a clear and unambiguous statement preferring custody and guardianship being exercised by one parent alone. Everything else must be a balancing of facts against the child's best interests. Facts such as those you posit would tip the scales most heavily--but they should not serve to prejudge the question.


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25 Sep 2012, 8:37 pm

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It should bother you that despite her admitting that in court, it was not a slam dunk case for custody to the father.
I have too little info about this anecdotal case to have hard feelings about it. I don't know if her lawyer was much better than his lawyer. Or if there was something the guy himself admitted to do that could have balanced things out. At the end though, the good guys win and she doesn't get custody.


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25 Sep 2012, 8:43 pm

Jono wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
HisDivineMajesty wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
that's incorrect, so it makes me suspect the site. one of the sources he quoted for that assertion was not legitimate, and the other one didn't support his point.


As you may or may not have noticed, one source was an excerpt from the other. The estimated number of women forcibly penetrated during a 12-month period was said to be 1,270,000. The estimated number of men said to have been forced to penetrate was 1,267,000. That seems to make enough sense, although it did not measure correctly to support that claim. As there were no known figures on men being penetrated - which, admittedly, would not constitute reliable or proper figures as men are not subject to that in general terms - they used the definition for 'being forced to penetrate'. That could be considered rape.

that (bolded) does not equal nearly identical rates of rape or sexual assault for men and women, period. that is what the first article misrepresented and subsequent articles requoted. also, that study was only concerned with various types of assault and abuse between long term partners, not for men and women overall. the MRA article did not make any distinction whatsoever about that.

here are some actual facts from the original study. the penetration numbers you quoted do not exist on in these summaries, so i don't know where you got that from.

Image

it's worthy of noting that women are over 10 times more likely to be raped by a partner in their lifetime than a man is, which is so very different from what the article is claiming. the original article's misrepresentation is pretty blatant and makes me distrustful of the site, because they are trying to changing public policy by manufacturing facts.

one article is even tagged "lying feminist scumbags" yet this article is also lying. that isn't just bad journalism, it's a rallying cry based on a deliberate misrepresentation.

what is interesting is that the same misrepresentstion is quoted over and over again in blogs and in comments on feminist articles and youtube videos, yet not one of those people bothered to do any fact-checking. you would think that ONE of them would have flagged that original article's misleading information. but apparently not.

i agree that there are some areas that need an improvement in equality between men and women (though we may disagree about which specific areas), but the MRA movement isn't helping that cause.


Sorry to dig up a month old thread but Hyperlexian, notice that the numbers you highlighted in bold to say is inaccurate, is exactly what is quoted in that study you posted the image of as proof that it was inaccurate. You just didn't read the fine print, look at it again. Instead of just looking under the category "rape", look under the heading "other sexual assault" and then look at the category "made to penetrate", there you will find the exact figure of 1,267,000 males being "forced to penetrate" that HisDivineMajesty was talking about. It is this figure that should be compared to 1,270,000 women under "rape" because the definition of "rape" in the report only defines it as "penetration by force", not including "forced to penetrate", which is included as sexual assault even though it should of also been included as "rape". Therefore, merely citing what the report cites as "rape" is actually misleading and HisDivineMajesty was correct. The figures are right there in your gif.

By the way, this thread should probably be in the PPR forum.

that is a statistic that is included in the overall percentage. you can't take one aspect of rape and state that men are just as likely to be assaulted based on that one category. that fact is that over a lifetime, women are 10 times more likely to be sexually victimised by their intimate partners than men. one subcategory doesn't make the MRA blanket statement true.


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25 Sep 2012, 9:36 pm

I think it's pretty clear that men rape far more often than women do. I often wonder about sexual abuse in gay relationships, though. It seems that when women do rape, they usually rape other women more than men.