Is polygamy evil/sinful? Should it be legal

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I just don't feel good about somebody having more than one husband or wife. Maybe it shouldn't be illegal--but I think it creates lots of problems.

A couple of men would be so handy right now,so much gardening work.

I think marriage should be disbanded - there's no need for people to be making these unrealistic commitments to each other.
I agree that it is possible to love and be intimate with more than one person at a time.

Just think...the more men you marry...the greater the odds at least one will have a high paying job, like doing yard work, car work, home repair, and taking out the trash.

Do you need your bush trimmed?

Adults should be free to form any non-rights-violating contracts with each other that they please. However, I can see why the government might not want to recognize polygamous marriages due to obvious complications. (There really needs to be just one person who can make end-of-life decisions, be executor of the estate, etc.) So, marry as many consenting adults as you please, but designate a #1 for government purposes.

As for the morality of it, it's for every individual to decide if polygamy is in his or her rational self-interest. For me the answer is no. However, I don't presume to dictate how others live their lives.

The whole dating - going to movies, hanging out, going to events and activities, etc - that's where the real fun is in relationships would seem to be anyway. Being able to say, "I love you", without fear of hatred in return, that's also great. The act of marriage, euphemism here, is a little less important to me than the other two items above, but it's not unimportant. Really though, it would just be nice to be able to be honest without fear of retaliation.

Some men like me do both the housework and the paid work, which can be tiresome if you work seven days in a row in order to help pay off your wife's lawyer, court fees, and her anger management therapy sessions while she spends most of her days sitting at McDonald's reading books and stuff.... I'm not going to divorce her because I promised her that I wouldn't and I don't want to be the type of person to break promises.

I don't know about the 200,000 years bit, but whatever yeah, for loads of millennia polygamy (unfortunately for women, only polygyny in most instances) was the norm and then the Romans practically threw it away in favor of monogamy + promiscuity. Seriously, I think polygamy would be less dysfunctional - at the very least because it is really far too easy to love more than one woman at the same time and in a monogamy-only culture that gets you treated like you're a piece of crap even though it's just emotional and a person can be responsible to keep the promises they've made regardless of emotion. In a culture allowing for polygamy in both forms, such down-looking would be less prevalent and it would be more understood as just emotional infatuation which need not lead to anything and not cause feelings of hurt and betrayal and jealousy - because then for such love to exist, no one would need to leave anyone else thus ensuing no feelings of fear for possible abandonment as would have to be the case necessary to rightfully say, "I love you", in a monogamy-only society.

That might make life easier to some degree, but getting along with relatives however that commitment helps to ensure them that you're not going to need arbitration in order to stay involved and responsible should conceiving children produce children.



Quite probably. Infatuation wise, I know that's the case and sometimes hate myself for it.

Well, so far, 81% in favor of both and 18% in favor of neither. 1% is off in space somewhere.

If i had like 5 wives and they all liked me and neither was jealous it would be awesome they would either take turns sleeping with me or go on a full reverse bang! I wouldnt be so hyper due to my energy being drained as well Id be more exhausted!

Frankly, if you support gay marriage while being against polygamy, you're a hypocrite.

I voted no, neither form, but not because it is evil by itself, but because most the time it is unfair, and it is women who are abused, and who are raised to consider polygamy as a normal thing that they should be ok with (like in some Muslim countries), and considered as 2nd class citizens. If we allowed polygamy (legally) in America, it would also open the doors for people like this Mormon man (I can't remember his name) who abused many women and girls. And it would be hypocrit of me to vote that polyandry is ok while voting that polygamy is not, so I voted "neither".

I have seen a case where a woman (this woman is a transgender tho) was with 2 men, and it was really their own choice to be together, so this is different because no one was abused nor forced into this relationship. But still, allowing them to get married, would allow all the other ones who abuse women to do so as well.

I know one thing that I remember from an article about a Mormon woman (in a sect where they allow polygamy, since Mormons are not polygamist in general anymore), and how she was saying that she realised she couldn't be everything her husband wanted and that therefore it was ok for him to marry other women ... but all this time she was thinking only of his feelings, as if hers didn't matter, I mean that man wasn't everything she wanted either, so why wasn't she allowed to have multiple husbands and it was only the man who was allowed to have multiple wives. I could also tell, from the things she said and the way she talked, that she had a very low self-esteem, and considered herself and her own feelings, as much less important than the husband's.

Even in countries like Iran, they understand this, and many men are married to only one woman, whom they respect and love, eventho legally they would be allowed to marry 4.

Polygamy, in my opinion, is even worse than cheating, it is "adding insult to the injury" (I mean in the millions of cases where the women don't have a choice). If it ever became legal here, and my husband actually wanted to marry another woman, I would lose all respect for him and would ask for a divorce very quickly.

It is not my place to tell people how to live their lives. Unless it's some anti cult measure or something. Then, sure, go ahead and ban it

This would be difficult to implement in the context of marriage today. This would mean someone being able to marry multiple spouses, so multiple spouses would be able to get the family benefits that are intended for only one other spouse. Before this would become feasible, we would either have to accept that someone may choose multiple spouses and have family benefits for the person to apply to all the other spouses, or we should get rid of such benefits.

Same sex marriage was feasible, because you still had only one spouse getting family benefits, but with multiple spouses, there could be a serious strain on the system.

This issue needs to be much more thoroughly investigated before enshrining it in law.

For now, I vote no, but if an arrangement can be made to work, then I would change my mind to yes.