Why do people want kids?

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I don't want kids, because of: cancer, muscular dystrophy, premature birth, stillbirth, birth with deficient vital organs,, murder, abduction, paedos, big dogs, household accidents, waterside accidents, road accidents, and if all those chances don't happen, the ecological crisis looming in their lifetime.

Odds are, all of these things you mentioned aren't going to happen.

The "ecological crisis" is preventable.

"That won't happen to me." A wishful emotion that many survivors of medical emergencies or disabling accidents admit they had thought until it did happen to them.

The odds are not zero. If any of them happen, as well as the injustice for the actual kid; everyone who has ever done anything nasty to me and has not had a tragedy happen to any of their kids would score a life victory over me.

if i had stable resources and a life partner, and i had enough years under my belt of living my own life, i would want to give myself to a new life. idealistically, i would want to adopt an autistic kid because i could provide them with understanding and acceptance and my own life's knowledge. if i had a biological kid there would be a good chance they would be autistic and it feels natural to me to want to nurture those with cognitive functions like my own.

but realistically, don't know if adoption process allows those diagnosed with autism to adopt, and if having mental illness diagnoses as well can impede that. there are probably a lot of strict eligibility questions. i haven't done any research as of yet because the possibility of a family/adoption is not visible anywhere in my near future, i just see that people love to exalt adoption as the ultimate Right Decision but its actually far more complicated than perhaps it should be.

the biological desire to create and raise a new life from one's own material, and/or from the material of one's partner, is powerful stuff. i certainly don't blame anyone for being human and having biological children.
and for the record, being interested in adoption doesn't mean i'm on the gloom&doom boat.

It's the forces of nature. If you feel the force then have kids. If you don't feel the force, don't have kids. We never planned to have kids. Then after some years together the forces of nature prevailed. Then you just get on with it. Repeat, you just get on with it. Some of it you enjoy. Some of it drives you absolutely and totally nuts! Everyone said it would change me. WRONG! I'm still the same Aspie, but with a kid who's fab and possible just like me....... he constantly lines things up I'm a very functional father. My partner handles all the kids social stuff. I dread going to the park, swimming, soft play etc.
It can be tough, but so can my whole life. I retreat to my shed when i have to.