Pepe wrote:
AngelRho wrote:
Indeed. Those things are by no means any justification. But it does show how wartime rape becomes normalized in societies.
Do you find it "normal" these days?
I certainly don't.
You and I don’t find it normal. But we likely didn’t grow up in societies that encouraged that kind of thing.
When I was about 11 or 12 years old, I knew a girl who’d been raped by her father and another girl who’d been raped by her cousin and had sex with her uncle. The uncle was about my age. After some time getting to know this particular family, I decided to put some distance between myself and them. I just wasn’t raised that way.
Time passed.
In college I studied sociology. Turns out incest is rampant in certain communities—in particular rural and urban black communities, Appalachia, and the Mississippi Delta. I was like, ok, that explain a lot, but it didn't occur to me I’d ever teach in “those” kinds of places.
Then I got my first teaching gig, and I really wasn't prepared for how backwards this place was. Plus I was an absolutely awful teacher back then. I had this one girl in my glass who was a couple months pregnant. She was sent to alternative school when she got close to term, and I briefly saw her again after she had the baby. This girl was in 7th grade, meaning she’d been sexually active since around 11 years old.
I was thinking if she’d been my daughter, somebody would be in prison. So why didn't her parents press charges? Pure speculation, of course, but if the father was a family member, it starts to make sense why there’d be no interest in prosecuting a child rapist.
Then it hit me--this kind of thing happens ALL THE TIME and nobody says a word about it. When I moved to the Delta, I found this was encouraged among the more impoverished population. For many people, incest IS normal, whereas for people like myself it's repulsive.
Something being normal doesn't make it right. It doesn't indicate good mental health among those trapped in it. It doesn't indicate a culture that embraces justice and freedom. But there’s no point either to saying it isn't “normal” because we are culturally averse to it.
Rape in the context of war is only not normal because war is never normal. The rape of Nanking is an example of a military culture that has come to accept rape as a feature of war. It is perfectly normal for men to desire sexual gratification, which “normally” happens in the context of a married relationship. The risk of losing one’s life coupled with long deployment and no consequences plus encouragement from other soldiers and even officers means a high likelihood that something like Nanking will inevitably happen. Even worse is when military officers ORDER soldiers to do it.