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22 Jul 2011, 2:03 pm

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Children shouldn't have sexuality forced on them in the first place.


There is nothing sexual about gay rights.


Getting up in a 5 year old's face about it and how the gay lifestyle is so "wonderful" is sexualizing little kids.



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22 Jul 2011, 2:11 pm

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Children shouldn't have sexuality forced on them in the first place.


There is nothing sexual about gay rights.


Getting up in a 5 year old's face about it and how the gay lifestyle is so "wonderful" is sexualizing little kids.


Take a walk into the children's clothing department someday. Note the bikinis for babies and mini skirts for toddlers. Note the push-up bras and thongs for pre-teens. That is sexualizing children.

Teaching kids about the fight against the oppression of a minority group is not. And how is the "gay lifestyle" any different from the straight lifestyle?



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22 Jul 2011, 2:15 pm

number5 wrote:
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Children shouldn't have sexuality forced on them in the first place.


There is nothing sexual about gay rights.


Getting up in a 5 year old's face about it and how the gay lifestyle is so "wonderful" is sexualizing little kids.


Take a walk into the children's clothing department someday. Note the bikinis for babies and mini skirts for toddlers. Note the push-up bras and thongs for pre-teens. That is sexualizing children.

Teaching kids about the fight against the oppression of a minority group is not. And how is the "gay lifestyle" any different from the straight lifestyle?


I don't approve with what clothing stores are pushing on children either.

We also aren't talking about fighting the oppression of a minority group like discrimination of someone with a particular skin color. I'm against sex being pushed on young children period.



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22 Jul 2011, 2:20 pm

Run, Spot, run.

Back when, children had gender but not sex. Adults had gender but not sex. Dolls had gender but not sex. Dogs rarely had gender.

We DID get hit with incomprehensible "current events" - which I would keep as far from the elementary school curriculum as sex.



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22 Jul 2011, 2:28 pm

Inuyasha wrote:
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number5 wrote:
Inuyasha wrote:
Children shouldn't have sexuality forced on them in the first place.


There is nothing sexual about gay rights.


Getting up in a 5 year old's face about it and how the gay lifestyle is so "wonderful" is sexualizing little kids.


Take a walk into the children's clothing department someday. Note the bikinis for babies and mini skirts for toddlers. Note the push-up bras and thongs for pre-teens. That is sexualizing children.

Teaching kids about the fight against the oppression of a minority group is not. And how is the "gay lifestyle" any different from the straight lifestyle?


I don't approve with what clothing stores are pushing on children either.

We also aren't talking about fighting the oppression of a minority group like discrimination of someone with a particular skin color. I'm against sex being pushed on young children period.


Thankfully it's illegal to "push sex on young children." Again, this subject has nothing to do with sex. Perhaps you should re-read the OP.

"California became the first U.S. state to require that public school textbooks include the accomplishments of gay, lesbian and transgender Americans as Governor Jerry Brown signed the mandate into law.... The law also requires that public schools teach about the contributions of Pacific Islanders and the disabled."

Where is the sex part? Did I miss it? I'm also still curious about this "gay lifestyle." Please explain.



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22 Jul 2011, 2:43 pm

How do you explain to the child what it is a homosexual without referring to sex?



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22 Jul 2011, 3:06 pm

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How do you explain to the child what it is a homosexual without referring to sex?


The same way you tell a child how they came to be - at an age appropriate level. 5 year olds often ask how they were made. You don't need to go into pornographic explanations. Mommy and Daddy love each other very much. They shared that love, you grew in Mommy's belly and then you were born. That's usually all they want to hear at that age. When they're ready for more, you proceed carefully and honestly and keep it age appropriate. So what if it's Daddy and Daddy, or Mommy and Mommy. It's absolutely no different. The child just wants to know that they are wanted and loved.

Again, sex does not come into play here. The lesson is about accomplishments. A discussion about Harvey Milk does not and should not involve sex anymore than a discussion about Harriet Tubman.



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22 Jul 2011, 3:25 pm

These days, one can learn quite a lot about sex from the internet.



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22 Jul 2011, 3:48 pm

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my view is that no one was gay before 1950 and that no one was homosexual before 1870.
because those are socially constructed identities.
Of course there was tons of man on man doings before that.
and not just in ancient Rome and Greece but consistently and constantly thru the ages.
But the people involved in said man humping did not see it as their primary identity and marriage was about joining families and producing heirs, something that dude who prefer dude love are as interested in as anyone else.
only after the marriage decayed into companionship and something you do for Love
did the Idea of gay marriage even make sense.
So Gay history should start with the sodomy trail of my hero Oscar and go through Stonewall, AIDS, and Gay civil rights and not really go back to biblical times.


I disagree on a number of scores.

Firstly, there were same sex marriages performed in the classical age. There were a sufficient number of them that Constantine saw fit to prohibit them in the Theodosian Code which would not have been necessary had they not been going on (or had there not been significant demand for them).

From my perspective homosexuality exists well before any social coining of the term. But, what I will grant you is that prior to the 19th century the legal view of homosexuality was one of behavioural determinism. It might be that no one conceived of "sexual orientation" prior to that time, but there were no fewer men whose primary sexual attraction was for other men, (and mutatis mutandis women as well).

The real change comes, I argue, not with psychological understanding in 19th century, but with economic freedom in the 17th century. Up until that point, people were born into their place in the economy. Most wealth was tied up in land, and one was very much tied to the land that one owned, one farmed, or on which one laboured. The merchant class was extremely small, and even here, children born to merchant families had very little mobility.

But with the growth of cities in the 17th and 18th century came the ability for men to leave the places where they were born and to exploit their labour for wages. This gave men, for the first time, the ability to live independently of paternal control, and the need to marry and have children. The growth of "Molly Houses" in London in the 18th century is ample demonstration of a subculture rooted in male-male sexuality that goes beyond simple behavioural determinism.


I think we are not too far away in our understandings of the issue. Maybe I am being a little too much of a hairsplitter.
I feel the percentage of men attracted to men has been constant but that the social constructs in which such attraction has been expressed continually change.


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22 Jul 2011, 8:15 pm

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Again, sex does not come into play here. The lesson is about accomplishments. A discussion about Harvey Milk does not and should not involve sex anymore than a discussion about Harriet Tubman.


It is quite likely that it is simply that I am rather queer [we mean here the sense of queer which was in my understanding when I was so labelled]. Certainly I am not now and never have been a Normal.

But I went through a pile of school, read about or heard about a pile of people. People of different times, ethnicities, social classes, complexions, personality styles, genders, religious backgrounds, and for all I know sexualities - except for which king was which queen's husband or father, sexuality did not come into it. Did it matter who Amelia Earhart and Charles Lindbergh were fantasizing about on their lonely flights?

Thing is - not one of those people was a person to me. They were characters in an episode of "You AreThere" - the event was the focus, not the person.



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06 Dec 2011, 6:04 pm

Here is an encounter for the history books

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/upshot/mich ... 25455.html



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08 Dec 2011, 12:01 pm

How can anyone know who was really gay from history? Michael Angelo? Who knows... were you there?

Being gay could cost a person their life back then, and still can in some cases.

How can ANYONE from today really know the sexuality of people who lived before us? They can't unless there is evidence... letters to a lover, photos, etc.

This type of education is good for gay youth to see that they are NOT alone, but I don't see the point in emphasizing the sexual orientation of anyone from history, unless it has to do with Sexual Rights or something.



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08 Dec 2011, 2:27 pm

In many cases we do have the evidence. If not direct evidence (most often in the form of correspondence) then certainly in the form of other people's writings about the subjects. (Bear in mind, being gay is not the only issue--it is also being perceived to be gay, whether one is or not.)

But let me move on to the far more important point that you raise--the question, "What's the point in emphasizing the sexual orientation of anyone from history."

I'll start with what I see as an essential point: being gay is about more than sex.

It cannot be repeated too often: Being gay is about more than sex!!

It is not enough that we are free from criminilization of our sexual behaviour. It is not enough that we have acquired the right to marry our partners (well, in civilized jurisdictions). Equality for gay and lesbian people comes only when it is accepted that we have a distinct culture that is as valid as any other culture in our society. We may be defined by our sexuality, but that is not the sum total of our existence.

So, as far as I am concerned, the point is cultural. Mainstream populations can maintain hegemony through the marginalization of the cultural history of minority populations.


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08 Dec 2011, 7:39 pm

the only problem i have with this is that it specifies glt- other queers existed too. i also think it shouldnt be limited to american history or post 1960s. so much interesting stuff happens all over the world it'd be a shame to ignore it all. i wish we'd had something like this when i was in school. it beats the invisibility or outright vilification that usually went on.



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08 Dec 2011, 9:11 pm

visagrunt wrote:
In many cases we do have the evidence. If not direct evidence (most often in the form of correspondence) then certainly in the form of other people's writings about the subjects. (Bear in mind, being gay is not the only issue--it is also being perceived to be gay, whether one is or not.)

But let me move on to the far more important point that you raise--the question, "What's the point in emphasizing the sexual orientation of anyone from history."

I'll start with what I see as an essential point: being gay is about more than sex.

It cannot be repeated too often: Being gay is about more than sex!!

It is not enough that we are free from criminilization of our sexual behaviour. It is not enough that we have acquired the right to marry our partners (well, in civilized jurisdictions). Equality for gay and lesbian people comes only when it is accepted that we have a distinct culture that is as valid as any other culture in our society. We may be defined by our sexuality, but that is not the sum total of our existence.

So, as far as I am concerned, the point is cultural. Mainstream populations can maintain hegemony through the marginalization of the cultural history of minority populations.


Can you describe your culture? I thought that homosexuality was about sex. What else is homosexuality about?



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08 Dec 2011, 11:42 pm

I honestly think that my state is well-meaning but misguided with this; sexual orientationblind is the way to go, as we must become colorblind and genderblind if sexualism, racism and sexism are to be destroyed in the long run. Affirmative action, such as this, is only a very short fix, not a perpetually sustainable fix.

Just as the righteous society must be remove gender from everything not related to inherent anatomy, by which I mean in gender roles, expectations of behavior, so too must the righteous society eliminate sexualism by removing roles of sexual minorities in stereotypes and expectations of behavior.

Culture should not be based on who one chooses to have sex with, or who one has a sexual preference for, for this is basing a culture off a low biological drive. Just look at all the low cultures that people come up with based on their sexuality, leather gay culture, the annoyingly gender stereotype-reinforcing transvestism, swinger culture and sexually-based cultures so stupid and vile that I shall not mention them here; note that inclusion on this list does not necessarily mean I think the practice the group is in is stupid but making a culture based on biology makes for inherently low and silly cultures and thus I think that basing a culture on a shared sexuality is, much like basing a culture on gender or gender roles, at best annoying and stupid and at worst dangerous and harmful to others. It annoys me just as much to hear a 15 year old female say "I am not good at maths", because of the idiotic idea that females do not do maths because of the fact that they are female, is just like transvestites wearing clothes prescribed to people of the opposite gender, because of the idiotic idea that all males dress in leather and denim or that all females dress in tutus and wear gaudy make-up, or for that matter the bizarre practices of some people in enjoying "role-play" in exaggerated gender roles, thus reinforcing those roles.

Let me be clear, I have no problems with people having consensual, decent and reasonable sex with any other healthy, sapient being so long as there equality between the partners. I thus have no problem with swinging, homosexuality, bisexuality, asexuality, homosexuality or combinations of these practices. I do have a problem when people of any sexual orientation make a lifestyle out of it. I am a heterosexual male but I do not go around dwelling in my heterosexuality nor do I choose to associate with other people because of their sexual orientation unless related to the, as of now theoretical, act of sex itself.


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