If a girl is raped and pregnant, should she keep the baby?

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This is an issue that everyone will never be able to agree on.

On one end you have people that consider abortion to be murder. Obviously if they believe that they are never going to think that murdering babies is ok.

On the other end you have people that don't consider abortion to be murder or babies to even be people until they can survive outside the mother's body and don't want to be forced to be an incubator for a baby that they don't even want.

I would less focus on hate, anger or revenge (which are absolutely nothing natural for me, just a beast relict of our past), and focus more an traumata. 9 months long, whenever you are remembered of your pregnancy, which is nearly all the time, you are also forced to remember the violence you endured. Just take something which would really cause a trauma for you, like a car accident when a relative of you died in front of you by burning (or something else, which is really hard to work on) and then try to imagine, that the broken car follows you 9 month long, reminding you every few seconds on that terrible accident, your burning relative, so the memory cant faint. Thanks goodness it never happende to me, but for me not anger or revenge would be the problem, but the problem that you cant work on passing the trauma by as long as you are always force to remember it. Its not about forgetting, bu you need to make distance. (Or i would need it.) As I said, abortion of lifestyle is terrbile in my eyes, and i personally cannot understand it. But most people respect abortion out of medicinal causes or riscs for the mother or the mothers life. And a lifelong trauma just because you couldnt start to therapy and leave it behind, is a medicinal cause in my eyes.

I also do not know if a child isnt harmed anyway in this case. The hormones, the feelings, stress and so on of a pregnant mum are shared with her baby, influencing the growing as well. Instead of the laughing, the cheer, the happiness you share as a mother by realizing the life you bear, best together with and from your beloved partner, every time you face your pergnancy its just sadness, grief, stress and fear, remembering hurt and pain and the wish to suicide to not be forced to feel all this anymore.

I can only decide for me, but i think that everyone must judge alone if he would be strong enough to endure this or not. There is no use forcing someone to endure it, just to receive a suicided dead woman together with a dead baby. Sure there will also be women who feel it in another way, who may be able to profit from pregnancy and to think positive of such a child. But you cannot force to feel like this into someone, because everybody feels the way he feels. I´d like to force on anyone to reduce all their consume, all the s**t that people buy, all the money they waste for nothing but to feel as a better chimp than the others, because with all that money wasted we could save thousends of life already existing, actually and practically dying in this moment, not because we head to endure 9 months of torment to save them, but of such nonsense like "I wanna have new television/car to enlarger my penis.". Its making me sad, but i see also killing in this, still i have to accept that i cannot force people to undo and save others life instead of buying nonsense. Accepting this as totally normal, killing other people just to get entertained a little bit, i cannot see how the same society wants to really convince someone, that killing by fun is ok, but killing to escape pain would not.

A child of my partner or an one night stand accident or whatever would be welcome for me in any situation. Job, money, "perfect time", "dream life"... who cares. If the worst "worst thing" that in my life will ever happen is an unplanned little brat, able to adress me with "mom" one day, i think i will live a very happy life. But i am no superhuman, and I dont think i personally would have the strength for the mentioned above. Its not as if never everything bad happened in my life, but for me it is necessary to focus on to get going again. Doing nothing makes me repeat the bad memories over and over again. Forced to stay in the moment, unable to move forward but yielding the pain 9 months long... i am sorry, but i gotta say NO living, existing person I do not even know, would be worth that much for me. And as sad, as it may be, i think it is pretty normal in a world where we all could save 1000 of to us unkown childrens life every day, but we just dont do it. Instead we are having fun discussing around together.

If it was possible one day to adopt an unborn child by giving it with an operation to another woman, i´d be happy about it. Because for me the child itself would not be the problem, but the memory it would force on me.

Abortion is a good thing. It gets rid of unwanted children and the women does not have to endure months of pain and getting their vagina wrecked.

Concerning rape, She should definitaley abort it. There is no reason why she should have to suffer even more after being raped.

Nothing can ever convince me that abortion is bad. I'm not interested in going through an unwanted pregnancy and childbirth.

I'll watch it later when I have time out of curiosity but it won't convince me to have babies.

Edit: I watched a little so far. That video is completely irrelevant to modern times. I don't know about back then but now third trimester abortions are very hard to get and Planned Parenthood only does them to 14 weeks. These days a pregnancy that far progressed would likely be told "sorry, too late, if we induce it will probably survive."

I tried to get one between 20-24 weeks and was told I'd have to go all the way to NYC to find someone that would do it and even then it might be too late.

Watched the video. Made me wonder how I would feel if I'd survived an abortion attempt; probably even more resentful than I already am. And to also have been caused to have a degenerative disease because of it. Awful.
Her arguments were no different than any others, but her passion is moving. It's good that they don't perform these late term abortions anymore.
Prior to developing into an autonomous human, while the baby is still dependent on it's mother's womb; it the mother's call. Carrying a baby and giving birth to it is sacred to the mother, not the state.