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29 Jul 2011, 1:18 pm

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A girl in such a position should do what she feels best for her. Personally, I would keep it. A life is a life, and I'm not so keen on ending one unless another is in danger.


Same here.



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29 Jul 2011, 2:24 pm

I think it should be up to the woman. Some do keep their babies after they were raped but I don't see why a mother would want to keep hers that was created by someone who raped her. She be reminded by it everyday by her tummy and then by her child when she sees him/her after they are born. She sure be reminded of it by her pregnancy symptoms and discomfort while pregnant.

But some are brave and go through it and put it up for an adoption. That's what my aunt wanted to do when she was 13 but her parents forced her to have an abortion because it was against their religion for her to be pregnant and even though abortion was against their religion too, they felt it was a gray area they were in and thought they'd get disowned by their family and their own children if they knew their daughter was pregnant. So they forced her to have an abortion. The whole thing sounded like a bad situation my grand parents were in and their daughter. I feel this whole thing was a big gray area because I also don't think people should be forced to have an abortion unless they are under 13. But my aunt was 13 and old enough to decide what she wanted but my grandparents thought they'd be disowned so it makes it a gray. I am sure they are ashamed of it now for what they did in their 40's. My mom found out about it ten years later almost and she didn't disown her parents for it so that shows my grandparents were wrong with their thinking and fear. But it's still a gray because how were they supposed to know? I am sure my other aunts know about it too and they don't disown their parents. Back then it was blame the victim when they got raped. Women didn't have rights back then either, not even in 1973 when it happened so I am sure it would have been blamed on my grandparents too because my aunt was wearing a tight dress that one day while she was walking home from the park. So I can see why they'd keep it a secret and force her to have an abortion. Just a big bad gray area there. But sadly it caused her to go schizophrenic later on. My mom said it was the rape that did it. I think the abortion and other crap that happened later on in her life lead to that illness.



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29 Jul 2011, 2:25 pm

I would say it depends on the mother wants it or not.
And I support abortion so it's not a tough choice from my point of view.


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29 Jul 2011, 3:28 pm

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I'm pro-life but it does seem kind of cruel to say a girl who's raped HAS to become a mom. Though on the other hand I find the idea of killing a baby because of the circumstances they were created by appalling. What do you think?

I guess I would say abortion is acceptable in the case of rape if the girl is under 14 or so and isn't physically capable of having a baby, or if the woman is suicidal as a result of the rape because that would classify as a life-threatening situation. I hate the idea that the rapist's baby should be killed because of what their father did, to me it's a form of honor killing and most religious pro-lifers actually support abortion when it comes to rape which I find inconsistent.

I just think if it HAS to be the mother or the baby, the mother should come first. But if the girl/woman is physically and emotionally capable of having the baby, she should have it probably and if she doesn't like the baby because it reminds her of its dad, she can give it up for adoption.


I think as long as the abortion takes place before it develops into a baby it is fine......someone who is raped and impregnated should not be forced to go through the pregancy or give birth to the child. Especially if they end up with PTSD you don't want to force someone to be reminded every day of something so horrible



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29 Jul 2011, 3:32 pm

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I think it should be up to the woman. Some do keep their babies after they were raped but I don't see why a mother would want to keep hers that was created by someone who raped her. She be reminded by it everyday by her tummy and then by her child when she sees him/her after they are born. She sure be reminded of it by her pregnancy symptoms and discomfort while pregnant.
But some are brave and go through it and put it up for an adoption.


I hate to be the one to bring this up......but how would the child feel when they find out they were created by rape and their mom could not bear to be reminded of it and had to give them up for adoption...I guess that is why I do not see the abortion in this case as wrong but I am sure some feel like anyone created that way could live a fullfilling enjoybale life and not end up commiting suicide when they find out how they were created.



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29 Jul 2011, 3:38 pm

League_Girl wrote:
I think it should be up to the woman. Some do keep their babies after they were raped but I don't see why a mother would want to keep hers that was created by someone who raped her. She be reminded by it everyday by her tummy and then by her child when she sees him/her after they are born. She sure be reminded of it by her pregnancy symptoms and discomfort while pregnant.


How would that child grow up knowing that the only reason that they are there in the world today is because that child's mother was violated?

I mean, I'm sure this probably happens a lot but I think it would lead to a pretty messed-up sense of self if the person was not emotionally strong.



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29 Jul 2011, 3:43 pm

Her decision. Nobody else's.

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29 Jul 2011, 3:46 pm

ThatRedHairedGrrl wrote:
Her decision. Nobody else's.


OK; but she should know that other external factors may also influence her partner.



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29 Jul 2011, 3:48 pm

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I think as long as the abortion takes place before it develops into a baby it is fine......


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29 Jul 2011, 3:53 pm

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If a girl is raped and pregnant, should she keep the baby?



There's no 'should' in this one.

It's none of my business.



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29 Jul 2011, 4:06 pm

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If a girl is raped and pregnant, should she keep the baby?



There's no 'should' in this one.

It's none of my business.


That it is not your business nor mine, yes.

That there is no "should"? Of course there is a should. I should say you should know that, and if you know you should acknowledge it.



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29 Jul 2011, 4:50 pm

Her call.

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29 Jul 2011, 5:07 pm

iamnotaparakeet wrote:
If she doesn't want the baby, then adoption

Abortion is another option given that they can, legally (for good) if they choose to. There are women who would not want to have a rapist's fetus inside of them at all, not even in thought, (they shouldn't and who could blame them). So, it comes to: the termination of the pregnancy of a woman through rape, her right.



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29 Jul 2011, 5:11 pm

blunnet wrote:
iamnotaparakeet wrote:
If she doesn't want the baby, then adoption

Abortion is another option given that they can, legally (for good) if they choose to. There are women who would not want to have their rapist's fetus inside of them at all, not even in thought, (they shouldn't and who could blame them). So, it comes to: the termination of the pregnancy of a raped woman, her right.


I answered the topic how I chose to. If I said that people should be legally permitted to be terminated by their mothers until they are 18 years of age, what would you say to that?



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29 Jul 2011, 5:17 pm

iamnotaparakeet wrote:
I answered the topic how I chose to.

As I did, and I stated that there is another option (and legal) than adoption, when a woman doesn't want the child of a rapist to be born.

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If I said that people should be legally permitted to be terminated by their mothers until they are 18 years of age, what would you say to that?

Id' say: Non sequitur.



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29 Jul 2011, 5:41 pm

blunnet wrote:
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If I said that people should be legally permitted to be terminated by their mothers until they are 18 years of age, what would you say to that?

Id' say: Non sequitur.


How fitting from someone who has deeply analyzed all of my fallacious misuses of logic within the few months they've been here to provide a non-answer with the misplaced naming of a fallacy.



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