Klowglas wrote:
I think sometimes men tend to put women on a pedestal because of a lack of emotional male relationships. Male relationships, outside of common interest are always reinforcing survival habits, which contradicts emotional relationships, hence the hazing that goes on in fraternities, or even in the playground when a boy is being taunted for doing something that is girly, the boys are trying to eliminate those tender emotions in favor of making a warrior out of the male, women are reinforced when they are soft and tender, men are not. Unconditional love is what humans seek out of God, unconditional love is much more evident in mother/son, though it's merely perception.
I think if males fall too deep into a warrior culture, we end up putting women on a pedestal because the emotional relationship becomes so restricted to women, but I think it's a failure within certain societies where the males are too hardened or war-like, it's especially brutal if the father is absent because he is the one that sets the example that we're not just simply about survival, which is something that I think reflects in the God/man relationship -- God wants you to survive, but he also wants you to have a REASON to survive, if we're too war-like, we tend to not feel emotions (which prevents us from feeling fear), but if we don't feel emotions, then how can we love? Would you trade an entire lifetime of surviving with no real love for one short moment of intense love, but where you died?
This is why I say survival tends to contradict real emotion, because survival really flourishes when there is a lack of emotion. God is all the qualities of a strict, wise, and disciplined male, with all the ingredients of a tender, wholesome, and kind mother. What you see in women is a mere shadow of what's in God -- it's your duty to keep your eyes open to that belief, because it was never something that was restricted to women. It's definitely the nicest and greatest attribute inside of women, but it's not theirs alone.
What you want out of god, is what you want you of women, but the error is believing that it is restricted to women, which is something that society tends to reinforce, but society is wrong.
True, if more people could and would understand that the gender polarizing ideals of culture and religion setting roles of strength and fearless as separate from roles of grace and love per masculine and feminine ideals IS contradictory to balanced innate human nature as whole, at least a few people could and would have a great life with peace of mind.
This a similar philosophy per what all great philosophers have been aiming at per simple human balance that our so-called lesser animal brothers and sisters live life as, per my CAT hugging the brown grass on the Winter Solstice Moon night or rolling in the Hot Summer Sand on Summer Solstice SUNday.
I embrace the feminine and masculine aspects of my being in balance, as well as all other seeming illusions of dichotomy in life, and follow the ways of so many truly successful philosophers of times gone past that still LIVE in NOW. :)
Meanwhile, males particularly, suffer the stiff and narrow walk down Super-Wal-Mart Aisles terrified of looking up at a nearly 230LB muscled middle-age man dance walking a free style of mixed martial arts and ballet, with shades like an FBI agent, albeit shorts and T-shirt in Winter. ;)
Meanwhile, the females videotape me, with their smart phones, of the younger freer kind and ask for my picture with them and at times dance with me, even in public stores.
Perhaps, the males will learn to dance free embracing the grace and love that can mix with the fearless and strength of masculine and feminine as one balanced human.
And who knows, maybe it will make it easier for them to meet females at a much earlier age than my age at 54. :)
19 Dec 2014, 6:28 am
