A defense of marriage

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I'm in the 'stay together because of love category', work through the challenges together and never take the other person for granted, no need to conform to a predetermined understanding of a relationship ...
Ive done the marriage and the religion bit, no thanks, not to be repeated. Didn't do the submit to husband part, I can't agree with an outside source telling me how to 'do' the relationship correctly. Also the RC church do not have the best track record at interpreting and applying the actual messages in the bible.
The state has too much influence on formal relationships, thankfully here, the Catholic church has lost credibility and at least they have little to no influence on state affairs these days.

I think there is a difference between saying a traditonal 50s style marriage is not what everyone wants and a traditional 50s style marriage is inherently bad.

Some women just want to live at home, take care of the children, keep the house nice and tidy, and have a loving husband that makes money for them to live that lifestyle. Some men want to not have to deal with anything after a long stressful day at work and come home to a loving wife who has taken care of all the home life. This is a good healthy relationship for some couples. It should not be hated on as a backwards way of living.

For some women the idea of sitting at home all day doing chores is a form of torture. For some men, having to work a high stress job to cover the full financial burden of the family is a nightmare. These people may gravitate towards a relationship where both of them work, and both of them take care of the home. This is a healthy relationship for some couples. Should not be hated on either.

What about an mentally or physically abusive man been told his wife has to submit to him?

@Twilightprincess you lust in the most generic womanly way possible. You don't understand the minority of women who lust like guys do. Yours is a victim experience told a million times to manipulate men into guilt, mine is a story seldom told. You trigger me. I don't relate to you, but you can find a million women who think exactly like you and can start a feminist crusade to bash men with sexual desires. I don't have that luxury.

@enz 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?s ... ersion=NIV

hmmm should women then not marry a man if they are smarter than him?

I have no intention of manipulating men into guilt.

I can’t help the specific experiences I’ve had and am glad that you haven’t experienced what I have. I’m rather surprised that you would attack me for it. I hope that it doesn’t bother your Christian conscience upon reflection.

I’m going to continue to speak out about equality because I believe it’s what all humans deserve - a life that can be lived with dignity and bold and blatant freedom.

It certainly doesn’t mean that I hate men. One man was central in my healing, actually.