The appeal of online Incel communities to autistic men

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So admittedly I didn't read the full length of the OP article but I waded about half way in and it was talking about a gentleman from South America who, while he identified as an incel and happened to be on the autistic spectrum, was turned off / repulsed by the anger and misogyny side of the culture - ie. the article was point out that there are plenty of guys like him who don't stack to the stereotype. The article stated that he was 34 and suggested that if he was still single by 40 that he wanted to either take his own life or be chemically castrated.

I think part of what's happening - he's still on a trajectory from his 20's where - per friends, per family, per every Disney movie you were raised with, the way of telling whether you 'made it' or not is whether you have a spouse, 2.2 children, white picket fence, etc.. To some small degree it's grappling with lack of sex and biological panic over fear of termination of both soma and germ (ie. being an evolutionary dead-end) but it's equally taken as a sign of failure. Working through that issue and reorienting to make lemonade out of lemons is not easy and you have to carve through many layers not only of conditioning but your own biological imperative - which isn't going to leave you alone lightly, and on top of that it takes swimming against the current of a society who measures success in such ways and taking a stance on yourself that won't be edified by other people. Sure - you can indeed do it but I don't know if it's in everyone's reach. That last part is why I really think we need to focus on giving permanent singles a healthy or even positive alternative place to be - it's one less place where we're damaging our human resource.

My point is that it's wrong to think that the ONLY solution to the problem is achieving said goal and anything different is abject and utter ruinous failure. It just is.

I think what I'm sympathetic to - I had enough internal resource and wasn't kicked hard enough to get that way, or at least when I was kicked hard enough I had that much internal resource to get around that.

A lot of people get kicked beyond repair and probably didn't go into that situation with the resources to handle that. What you're saying works great if the conditions of your life are at least within the pale of sanity or if you're at least able to keep yourself in the pale of sanity through enough personal preparation. Life doesn't always give people that backdrop.

One thing I worry about is that there's a sense out there - in popular opinion - that's the Abrahamic hangover of 'God only gives people what they can handle'. I think we're failing to see a lot of significant hazards, especially in the way of people for whom society has completely failed, while we carry that security blanket around with us.

So what about autistic women?  Are femcel or extreme feminist communities naturally appealing to us? Oh I forgot, we don't exist.

I understand what you're saying and I think your points are valid that some people are not capable of changing course. I'm sympathetic to people that have such struggles. My hope would be that they seek out professional help before they hurt themselves or hurt anyone else if they're thinking either is their only choice they have.

So what about autistic women? Are femcel or extreme feminist communities naturally appealing to us?
Oh I forgot, we don't exist.

Boy has life changed,as a gen X'er I came of age in the early 90's,the age of grrll riot feminism,Kathleen Hanna,Kim Gordon and even Courtney Love was sort of grrll riot.

They would say overweight woman weren't like by men,only the size 4 girls could get a date,men put pressure on women to be ultra slim,overweight woman loathed themselves.

You don't hear that talk from women and feminists much anymore,your hearing more men today say they can't find a date or a partner,the world does change,things are very different than when I was young.

Let's hope things improve for younger autistic men in the dating world,maybe they need to start boooy riot punk bands,maybe consult Kathleen Hanna on how to start a movement.

I thought it was "riot grrrl", and not "grrrl riot".

According to Google is riot grrl, I guess I miss remembered.

You also forgot to include Babes In Toyland in your list!
I think you should lead the party in a group rendition of Handsome & Gretel to make up for this shocking oversight

You also forgot to include Babes In Toyland in your list!
I think you should lead the party in a group rendition of Handsome & Gretel to make up for this shocking oversight

Grrl riot changed a lot for woman,maybe things will get better for the man,your a baby boomer so you may not remember Kathleen Hanna and Bikini kill and all that stuff.I actually saw Sonic Youth in concert,you know your gen X if you saw Sonic Youth live LOL.