MatchboxVagabond wrote:
To some extent, stereotyping is a mandatory thing in order to just function. Just imagine if every time you encountered a door, tree or person you had to go through a complicated taxonomy to determine what it was that you're dealing with.
When were' talking racism, typically, we're talking about when you've got a broader than necessary set of characteristics and are clinging to them too tightly to see what's going on.
I think its important to make a distinction between stereotyping for self-preservation and stereotyping for the sake of it. For example Babybird said its been a long time since she took public transport. So naturally she is scanning the bus as anyone else would do. She notices a couple drinking on the bus. She notes its unusual as she has never seen Asian couple drinking in public before. Everything she has done has nothing to do with racism. She has also tried to ask whether it was right for her to question why an asian couple would be drinking in public. Her showing self-awareness is not racist. I would do the same and I'm anti-racist.
People ask commonly if its racist to cross the road if a group of black men walk toward them? My answer would be it depends. Do the group actually look dangerous? If its a group of black men on a college campus who all look Steve Urkle then why would you cross the road? If its in broad daylight in a shopping precinct where there are crowds then again why would you cross? but if its at 2am and there is nobody else around then its purely for self-preservation.
But in my experience when people say "I'm not racist for crossing the road" it often means they have ulterior motives.
But if you are on a bus and a black person sits next to you and you get up and sit somewhere else then are you racist? it should be an open and shut case, the answer should be yes. But...what if there are other empty seats? what if you are a young female and its a black male? maybe the decision had nothing to do with race. I think the subject requires a lot of nuance but unfortunately in this day and age discussing it is triggering.