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All women are like this online esspecially if they were the majority online!

ha.

Please note that I qualify my assumptions with "I feel like" and "maybe", so I'm offering you an opportunity to clarify your position. I am just responding to your text, not making assumptions about who you are.

I don't really know what you mean by "every day person" though, some every day people are autistic, some are narcissistic, some have high confidence and libido, some are as*holes, some are stupid, etc. There are lots of factors that influence why a person would say hello to someone who is not giving any invitation to do so.



Yeah, I'm autistic too, so I have a good idea of what it's like. But I feel it is somewhat egotistical of you to want me to learn everything about you before responding to a post in a forum. I am just responding to text, if you have any more expectations of how you want me to engage with your text I'm sorry to disappoint you.



I think you are making a lot of assumptions here about how people perceive you, but maybe those assumptions aren't accurate.



I never suggested that, you are wrong. The issue I was addressing was not physical harassment, but when people say hello to you when you are giving off body language that suggests that you don't want to be talked to.



I just come here to respond to text I find stimulating, I don't think it's a requirement to get to know the people who write the text to respond to it. If you are trying to make me feel bad about what I wrote by saying what I did is "shameful", it didn't work.

What did I do that negatively impacted others?

The implication that you need to have a certain level of social skills in order to introduce yourself to someone bothers me, because it follows that people who are autistic should not attempt to initiate social interactions.

Its so stupid of a male to do this to any female who quite literally wants to be left alone.

Its as if they want to validate their little 5-inch wee wee "manhood" by "nailing" a "b***h."

And if that man cannot get her, for them, no one can.

I have been sexually harassed and molested because of such males in my younger years. Now I know why.

Some men are just such babies and need confirmation that they are indeed "men" by sexual activity with a female.

I guess our young boys have been conditioned this way among these Western civilizations.

How dare many men think of all women as his property or sexual object or tool of submission?!

When a woman says, "no," she means it goddammit!

What the f**k s wrong with guys who actually believe that farce that like 90% of women want to actually get raped. That is the stupidest s**t I have ever heard! No wonder I find it hard to believe that being genius is an extreme male mind.

LOL...Even if I had a five-inch wee wee (which I don't), I still know how to make excellent use of it!

It's easy to make six inches feel like eight.

12 pages and no one posted this?
This says it all:

The fact the people conflate statements like "how are you this morning" and "have a nice evening" with harassment is what is so confusing.

Imagine anyone other than a pretty girl walking through the city and how many greetings like that they would get - few if any. Then there are those willing to take it a step further, almost demanding a reply, or walking beside her, trying to guilt her into replying, "You won't talk to me coz I'm ugly." Such overtures would make all approaches annoying.

For some, just to have a pretty girl say "Hi" is enough. But others hope or even expect the possibility of more. I imagine it could be like a mine field for a pretty girl. So, on one hand, just a greeting isn't harassment, but the frequency of them and the potential of unwanted attention would be a concern for some. Some people have the personality to handle it, others don't. My own daughter hates going out in public in part because she struggles with handling unwanted attention.

I suppose that religious fundamentalist indoctrinated cultures that are smaller than higher density urban ones without that intense religious fundamentalist indoctrination have their advantage, as this rarely to never happens where I live, AND I am out in the general public watching everything for hours almost everyday.

To be clear it happens at the bar where I go to dance, but that's to be expected when alcohol, young folks, and a place to find mates is part of that mix.

The area where I live is not a good place to have a sexual orientation that is out of the norm, still, or even be black, still, but as far as being female, it is a great place to get respect almost all the time, out in the general public.

My wife has been rated gorgeous by many respected resources, for literally decades, and she never ever receives any crap like this, as in my area when women get disrespected in anyway like this, men stand up for their honor, as that is part of the fundamentalist patriarchal religious way, and it definitely has 'its' advantage for 'that', at least where I live, and I'm sure in many similar areas across the country..... per rural red state 'fundie' areas....

And when folks say hello or good evening, it ain't with 'THAT' TONE OF VOICE OF THE 'PREDATOR' AT LARGE.....

BIG CITIES can BE COLD places in more ways than one.....

Humans are simply not evolved to live in big cities, over around 150 to 200 sets of social eyes, as their pro-social emotions tend to shut down, and they get all whacky, per connecting to others in respectful ways....

Reminds me of the Pink Floyd album 'Animals'; however, animals can usually fight back....win or not....

But 'they' usually don't live in BIG cities, of 'dogs' at least.....

THERE IS a solution, perhaps not realistic but one that would work for that young lady, IF SHE COULD DO IT, to cure this problem in an instant.

And that is to simply move away, from a place humans are NOT CLASSICALLY EVOLVED TO LIVE.

I'M smart enough NOT TO move to a big city, and I can truly leave my doors unlocked without a real statistical worry, as no one has been robbed in my neighborhood for literally decades, knock on brick, says the 'big bad wolf'..