What are Men for?

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Open Jar glasses. XD

Or, that we're to be taken for a ride.

My husband did not receive this memo. Our yard turned into a prairie the summer I was pregnant and not able to use the push mower. The neighbor ended up mowing some of it out of pity.

Your training program failed.

retrain the dogs
they are drinking too much beer
and looking at girlie magazines

men are for the features of the next generation
choose your man wisely

In Auckland I see many slim jogging/gym sexy females
and fat money making men
its a normal scenario

men are good at paying for sex kitten lifestyles
meow

Been married a long time, and what I find is that the roles we fill best and are happiest with are those we choose for ourselves. We share in a lot of the responsibilities, but those that one specializes in sometimes become that person's role. But this is not written in stone. If DH is unable to do something he usually does because he likes it, I take over, and vice versa. We're a team. Partners. We take care of each other. If there's something neither of us likes to do, we take turns or split up those tasks between us somehow.

If a couple doesn't take care of each other - willingly - they probably don't belong together. It has nothing to do with man's role in society or woman's role, but with loving, caring, sharing, and taking care.

We both cook, and we have vastly different styles of cooking. His is more scientific, mine more of a meditation. We don't do all that well cooking together, but even that we manage. He likes to be in charge in joint cooking projects so we have to do them when I feel like being subservient for a little while, and then it works out. I do the bill paying and budget, because it upsets him too much, and I kind of like the task.

Our house and yard are cluttered and messy, so maybe that indicates how much we pressure each other to do anything in either place - not much. We get along most of the time.

Over time our roles have changed. Each of us enjoyed different things when we were younger, or had more stamina for them, or lots of ideas. It's okay to change roles, to settle in a relationship. The most important things is not to expect the other to fulfill your needs or dreams. That's up to you. They have their own expectations and dreams that they should work on. It's about respecting the other, their contributions, their uniqueness.

It's really not about gender at all, but individuals.

They certainly can be. Good people, regardless of gender, are nice to be around. We humans like getting along with each other and cooperating on projects, whether it's maintaining a home, managing a presidency, parenting kids, or whatever. Just because the rules about 'men do this, women do that,' are blurring, doesn't mean that women and men can no longer cooperate and enjoy each other's company. It just means that who-does-what is dictated by the individuals involved, rather than by societal tradition.

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When I was married my ex did mow the lawn,but he mowed down the wildflowers also,I guess he wasn't a big fan of Frost(ha-ha).He would mow down stuff I had planted.He did disc the garden with a tractor,but I did all the work after that.Ever hoe a 50ft row,and not just one but several?Plus pick the stuff,prepare it,preserve it???Cook it?
I have a John Deere rider now,more dependable than he ever was and I mow about a 1/2 acre or so,weed eat,garden,water,drag my own wood in etc........And now I have a small electric rechargeable saw to maybe cut some of my own wood.Lot of the women around here work just as hard as the men,even in the hay fields.I've bucked hay before and got tennis elbow from it.What I did expect my ex to do was actually hold down a job and not run up and down the road partying ,and to not physically or mentally abuse me,but I had too high expectations and hence,the divorce.I had my problems,depression,mood swings,I'm not social and he was.He was always bringing people over,and not good ones either.Of course I shouldn't have piled his clothes in the driveway and set fire to them ,I should have divorced him long before it got that bad,but I was afraid of trying to make it alone.So at that time I guess I did need him for the very small sense of security he gave me,but when I realized that nothing on earth was as bad as being with him is when I began to realize I would have to take care of myself and accept the responsibility that I had made a bad choice in getting with him.
But I can't climb on the roof to clean out the flue so I have to ask my son or pay someone and I'm not going to flirt with men to get them to do stuff,it just seems wrong.Abuse of power maybe,ha ha.And I can open most jars myself,but sometimes it's hard to get the cork out of the wine bottle,a manly arm would be nice then.And for sharing things ,and sex

Reaching hard to reach places and lifting heavy furniture.

Someone to abuse while menstruating.

She looked do-able back then............

Killing stuff.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minangkabau_people

That seems refreshing.



Maybe that explains higher divorce rates in USA. Women no longer enjoy an elevated status.

.....I didnt say it!! In that case though someone to slap after receiving the menstration comment!

Someone to tell them the cloths they are trying on that it doesnt make them look fat!