Do you ever Unintentionally offend people?

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Why is this posted here than in GAD?

I have offended people before with my opinions and I have even offended a random stranger at a tram stop. I got off and saw a young man walking towards me so I stepped aside so he can get around me but he was like "Excuse me" if a rude tone. I told him I was standing aside so he can get around me and he walks by saying "as*hole."

I have no idea where I was supposed to go, like run to the other side of the sidewalk?

IRL I don't often offend people maybe because I don't socially interact much.

I offend people unintentionally the time. It gets exhausting.

Sometimes I just have to walk into a room and people get offended, or sometimes when I meet someone for the very first time, they take offence either before I speak, or at my first comment.

Once I complimented a casual friend on how nice she looked in her leather jacket, and she got offended!

Apparently I'm very blunt and 'to the point.' But this is me being tactful, censoring myself and holding back! What would they think if I said what I REALLY thought?

People seem to be intimidated by me, or think I need 'taking down a peg or two.' I have no idea why. I don't think I'm intimidating or big headed.

I give up.

Of course all these incidences of people being offended would be solved if the offended one simply said 'I was hurt when you said XYZ to me the other day. What did you mean by it?'

9 times out of 10, I could explain that I didn't mean A, I meant B. It would be cleared up very quickly.

But most people don't do that. They whisper in corners about how rude/ mean I am, then try to 'get their own back on me' in nasty, underhand ways. I don't know I offended them so I don't know why they are being nasty and we all end up mystified.

Clear communication would help us all. I think autistic people are better at clear communication. It's just everyone else can't stomach it.

I'm sure that I unintentionally offend most people in PPR every time I post something. I don't think I offend many people IRL.

I've had this before.

I went to a local Oktober fest, was leaving and out in the makeshift parking lot and there was a car waiting to get out from a line of people. We stopped to let them go, they just zoned out and never acted on it, other people agreed that it was strange that they didn't take that break, and some idiot working at the event jogged past me and said 'It would help if you weren't standing out in the middle of the road' (ie. the car didn't pull out because I was standing out in front of it with my thumb up my arse, something no one else saw but him).

It doesn't need to be true or even make sense. Some people are just dumb, others will stretch any conceivable misunderstanding of a situation into a social dominance play, and the later can be masked as stupidity so often that it can be tough to tell whether it was sincere or cynical / malicious. If I even have to ask in any serious way whether it was sincere or malicious I dismiss it because it's an overreach either way.

I used to. My mother would really chew me out afterwards and say it was normal for little kids to say stupid and cringy things because they don't know better, but not a teenager or a young adult like i was at the time.

But now I say offensive things on purpose all the time. People get offended no matter what you say, so you might as well just say it, if I keep my angry and frustrated feelings about the human race all bottled up my might start spitting blood like in that episode of Malcolm in the Middle.