Rampant issues with feminism....

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If aggressive/creepy men who overstepped women's boundaries were castrated, there would be more women for me. Can't say I object to this proposition.

That it is the difference
between the genders
that is the source
of their attraction
and the way
that those differences
compliment
each other.

...Wanna read something that might make you vomit a little this morning? ....The Salt Lake Tribune today ran a long article on "overseas dating," which is the euphemism it's using for men seeking the modern-day equivalent of mail order Russian brides....

...It's beyond silly to stereotype entire countries of women, but men like Adams seem oblivious to that. Nor do they seem to grasp how much the power differentials play into international "dating" dynamics. Many of the women using these sites want to escape bad circumstances in their own countries and gain green cards to the United States. Of course they're going to be more pliant, more submissive to their potential American husbands — but no no no, it must be some sort of fundamental difference between U.S. and foreign women!...

Utah Man 'Sick' of Depraved American Women Finds Foreign Bride Online

One Utah man has bravely gone where no man has gone before: online, in search of a foreign bride who looks like a model but has the values of his grandmother. These matrimony-worthy prizes do not exist in the den of iniquity that is the United States, so he found her in Ukraine, and is now, happily, the King of overseas dating.

Nathan Adams, a 45-year-old aircraft mechanic, found Elena Adamchiyk, a native of Ukraine, on Anastasia.com, the largest international online-dating company in the world (the Moscow-based company projected earnings of $140 million this year). The website is running a sappy campaign portraying the wholesome couple as the ultimate love story to counter criticism that international dating is for creepy rich dudes who want subservient wives — or, alternately (slash simultaneously), for devious strumpets who want to come to the U.S. by any means possible.

.....I'd like to keep ribbing on Adams, who was clearly searching for a compliant, deferential wife, not an equal — why else use a site where women don't have to pay? — and being so goddamn picky about it. ("He didn’t want women age 30 or younger because, in his experience, they’re interested in clubbing. He didn’t want a woman older than 36 because he believes most have already reared children and aren’t interested in mothering a young child.")

....Even if the relationship isn't as lovey-dovey as the dating site that brought them together would like us to believe, dating is often an exercise in exploitation locally, too.

If he turns out to be a controlling dick, let's hope she's just in it for the visa. Ah, romance!

Reading about anyone's search for the perfect significant other is bad. Like when reading women's dating website profiles where they want a 6'8'' man who makes 200k a year who can cook, clean, and does romantic things every 15 minutes.

....a subculture of men who’ve told me, in no uncertain terms, that they’re never getting married. When I ask them why, the answer is always the same: Women aren’t women anymore.

To say gender relations have changed dramatically is an understatement. Ever since the sexual revolution, there has been a profound overhaul in the way men and women interact. Men haven’t changed much – they had no revolution that demanded it – but women have changed dramatically.

In a nutshell, women are angry. They’re also defensive, though often unknowingly. That’s because they’ve been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs.

Now the men have nowhere to go.

It is precisely this dynamic – women good/men bad – that has destroyed the relationship between the sexes. Yet somehow, men are still to blame when love goes awry. Heck, men have been to blame since feminists first took to the streets in the 1970s....

... after decades of browbeating the American male, men are tired. Tired of being told there’s something fundamentally wrong with them. Tired of being told that if women aren’t happy, it’s men’s fault.

Contrary to what feminists like Hanna Rosin, author of The End of Men, say, the so-called rise of women has not threatened men. It has pissed them off....

An interesting perspective here

http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/11/24/war-on-men/

Ditto that for men who blame all of their personal/romantic/financial unhappiness on women.

We blame it on culture not a gender that's what people like you don't seem to want to understand.

If you’ve browsed the Salt Lake Tribune lately you might have been unfortunate enough to come across an article titled, “Sick of Utah women, dad is poster it for overseas dating.” The second I saw the title I had my concerns, because a man is sick of an ENTIRE POPULATION OF WOMEN. Whatever followed the title I was pretty sure that Utah women weren’t the problem for Mr. Nathan Adams.

Nathan Adams is a 45-year-old divorcee who says he “hates dating,” and he’s decided to circumvent the process by "purchasing/meeting" a Ukranian bride from the site AnastasiaDate.com. "Purchasing" isn’t the term Adams, or the proprietors of the site, would use, but what else do you call a site where only the men pay to participate?



AnastasiaDate provides key services when you’re purchasing a wife, services like translation, because the women don’t speak the same language as their suitors. Adams told the Trib’s Kristen Moulton that he loves dating his fiancé, Elena Adamchiyk, because it is “like dating a model…who has the values of my grandmother.” Translation: I want a physically attractive women who will take care of me like Grammy did while I was still in short pants.



If Adams isn’t a misogynistic imperialist, his “critiques” of Utah women fooled me. Those pesky Utah women, say things like, “I want this. I want that. I won’t tolerate this, I won’t tolerate that.” Translation: women, don’t want things or have boundaries! “If you’re dating someone local and … your relationship starts out with having sex with them, you’re not really their friend,” Adams explains. Just another reason he needed to date internationally, because he doesn’t know how to have sex and be friends with women.

Apparently, when he couldn’t find anyone who acted like a subservient sponge, he ventured into the world of international dating.



Ms. Adamchiyk seems like a wonderful woman who is more than happy to take on the responsibilities of raising Adams’ 6-year-old daughter, Vanessa. Adamchiyk explains that, “I want marriage. I don’t want Russian marriage.” Her desire for an “American marriage” stems from two failed relationships in the former Soviet Union where the men cheated on her, something she believes isn’t prevalent here.
AnastasiaDate specializes in the fetishization of many women abroad, with sister sites dedicated to matching men with Asian, Latin American, and African women. There is no doubt that some people might find love on these sites, but these relationships that begin with the men purchasing a woman’s time hardly seem like relationships at all. The Tribune’s profile of Nathan Adams and Elena Adamchiyk is hardly a glowing portrayal for AnastasiaDates, but we think it’s incredibly accurate, and exposes the mindset inherent in these transactions.