This is an opinion that was sent to me about patriarchy.

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^^ Read carefully:

You are demonstrating that you are incredibly naïve and ill-informed about this topic.

Yes, most people can become parents biologically, but that doesn’t mean that parenting is easy, especially if your goal is to be a good parent.

Jobs can be challenging in different ways - physically, mentally, emotionally, and in any combination of those. Just because you don’t believe that parenting is “rocket science” doesn’t mean that it’s not incredibly difficult.

I did not comment on MV's adoption concern, or take a side. My brother and I adopted a child, and there are several adopted people in my family, including a very dear friend who is terminally ill. Adoption and abortion law are a separate matter to what we've been discussing, which in itself is separate to the OP's thread topic.

As for parenting being difficult, please note what parenting means. It isn't just spending time with your children and tending to their needs. It might also mean having a career like, for example, being an air traffic controller or a pilot, to pay the expenses related to parenting. It's a package deal - work and parenting. Many parents do demanding jobs like that to support their children or keep their home, whereas they may not seek such a demanding / high paying job if they were single. That's exactly what happened to me. I would not have worked 80 hours a week if not for the needs of my kids.

Staying at home with kids is hard, too, especially when they’re young. It’s all difficult. Being a parent is a huge responsibility, and it’s 24/7 - working outside the home or not.

Parenting isn’t something you ever retire from. Adult children often need various forms of help and assistance from parents.

From infancy on up, there is usually some worry or concern (major and minor) parents have to contend with - pregnancy, labor, and delivery -normal and otherwise, buying necessary baby items, feeding problems related to breastfeeding and otherwise, bonding, growth charts, sicknesses (major and minor), frequent appointments, sleepless nights, early childhood education - at home or preschool, time spent reading, playing, interacting and going to the library, cleaning messes and preparing food, dealing with drama at school, behavioral issues/discipline challenges, perhaps learning challenges and parent meetings with teachers, financial concerns, pets and what goes along with them, issues with friends, breakups, traumatic events, the death of loved ones, preparing them for adulthood, etc. This is only a small list of things. There are many, many more issues parents face, and it never ends.

Being a parent is extremely draining emotionally and exhausting physically at times. It takes intelligence to navigate problems in a beneficial way.

I don't recall ever thinking I had the qualifications to tell people about being a parent, pre-kids. It didn't even cross my mind that I could have an opinion. I didn't really like playing with dolls. I had some really scary experiences when babysitting. My husband made me write an essay about why I wanted children, my reasons for which he would evaluate to decide. All I remember saying was that it was "the next natural step" -- lol, such an autistic brain.

First comes fake love, then comes doomed marriage, then comes Issy all alone with autistic babies and a gruelling high-pressure career she's ill-equipped to handle, for the rest of her life ....

Does it have a nice ring to it?