slowmutant wrote:
Vigilans wrote:
Marriage itself is an antiquated institution which not many heterosexual couples engage in or are able to maintain. Not to mention that but this religious connotation has no place in a secular society. They're simply defining marriage as if Christians invented it. If two homosexuals who are also atheists wish to marry, what right is it of the non-secular religious right to tell them they can't? They don't share the belief at all so it should have no relevance.
If that's true, why hav so many same-sex couples exchanged rings, exchanged vows, had ceremonies? I don't quite understand how marriage is totally shat-upon by some LGBT as worthless, antiquated, outdated, etc., and yet the right to marry your partner in church with friends & family present, like Ellen & Portia, is the golden fleece of all gays & lesbians everywhere.
What is that you really want, LGBT? Marriage or Civil Union?
Both?
Neither?
If you all crap on marriage, then you naturally don't get any. How's that?
Or better yet, same-sex marriage should be made MANDATORY for all same-sex couples. If you are in a commited homosexual relationship, you are automatically considered terrorists if you are gay & single.
You went a little far on this one SM.
The answer is gonna be different for each person.
My answer, I'm more concerned with the civil rights associated with marriage currently then the actual word marriage. I believe it's discriminatory to give one long term committed couple financial benefits from the US government and deny those same benefits to another long term committed couple simply based on the gender (or lack thereof) of the participants. It's not the job of our government to make private sphere moral decisions. Public sphere - like drunk driving, murder, rape..... yes...... but they don't belong in the bedroom between consenting adults.
What does that mean? I support gay marriage because it's simpler to include gay couples in the existing structure then it is to rework the entire structure. I'd prefer to see the government only recognize civil unions and leave marriage to the churches, but that requires rewriting a lot of laws.
I'll be happy with whatever solution provides legal equality with no differentiation. (i.e. I am opposed to civil unions and marriages both being recognized as separate distinct contracts by the government)