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08 Nov 2014, 5:51 am

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There's really no way to package this in a palatable way. The terminology "White Privilege" might be a bit off-putting, but no matter how you slice it, this is an unpleasant truth. It challenges people's basic assumptions about themselves and how they got to be where they are.


Do you suggest that white people who live in say Detroit - though just 10% of the city population - are unfairly seen as "safer" by black police officers, and this is the basis for the "privilege"?

If so, I would think you would want to inquire why people think this way, rather than only looking at it superficially?

While this phenomena could be called a privilege or really an "honor" - there are causes. People believe what they believe for a reason. So far, it does not appear you have addressed why - according to you - white people are given this honor, and some black people are not.



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08 Nov 2014, 10:36 am

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That sort of makes sense, though rich white guys hardly represent white people in general, is what I am getting at. Also I am not sure I agree that only white men get to be individuals, I feel like I am an individual I have met plenty of non-white people with their own identity who are individuals, maybe not all are normal but yest it would seem there are normal people of minorities.


The point is, society ALLOWS white people to be individuals, but Blacks, Asians, Latino/as are put into their racial groups whether they like it or not.

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And I thought usually rich white males where referred to as rich white males....so how are they label free since rich, white and male are are labels? you're right I don't really get it. Also there is just the simple fact that not all rich/upper class douchebags are white, pretty sure a black person like that for example wouldn't be after being a rich 'white' man, they'd still be a rich 'black' man...now I am well aware the wealthy in this country seems to be largely white males, but its not limited to that and neither is douchebag like behavior. Seems like the article has varying points, some of which I really don't get and some that do make sense.

The author does discuss this. There are minorities who aspire to be like rich, white dudes. They're douches too.

The article is really about the sense of entitlement that many rich white guys have--the expectation that everything should conform and cater to them. In our society, it usually does.


Yes they certainly are, and I am put into the racial group of white even though I am part native american....its interesting to be a mix of white and native american actually and has some of its own challenges. I feel like white people are also stereotyped, I don't want to be associated with rich douche-bags for my skin color is my point. But yes I have seen people being pushed into racial stereotypes and I think its kind of stupid, for instance within listening to a lot of metal and rock I have heard the myth that it is 'white people' music....well music doesn't have a color its for everyone, yet I have even talked to black people who feel pressured to listen to rap and hip hop to fit some stereotype when they'd rather just listen to what they like to give a real life example. Anyways I'd agree racial stereotyping is a major problem.

And I guess I don't understand how a minority could strive to be a rich 'white' douchebag if they aren't white since their skin color wont change if they become a rich douchebag, but whatever, though maybe now white refers to some identity and not a skin color...it all seems very confusing. Though I also think with the advances in like online communication and what not there is more verbal dialogue between people from different places, backgrounds ect....so with that is going to come discussing uncomfortable issues, which can hopefully lead to solutions or people coming to understandings but maybe I am being too optimistic.


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08 Nov 2014, 11:31 am

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Do you suggest that white people who live in say Detroit - though just 10% of the city population - are unfairly seen as "safer" by black police officers, and this is the basis for the "privilege"?

yes, actually. That comes from what is known as internalized oppression.

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While this phenomena could be called a privilege or really an "honor" - there are causes. People believe what they believe for a reason. So far, it does not appear you have addressed why - according to you - white people are given this honor, and some black people are not.

A big part of this is the basic assumptions everyone starts out with.
It is assumed that whites are safe and law abiding. But for blacks, the assumption is that they are dangerous and probably guilty of something... That is another example of white privilege, yes.

There's also another thing at work here. It's called the Thomas Theorem. The Thomas Theorem states "If men define a situation as real, it is real in its consequence."
That has a great deal to do with how blacks and the police interact.

BUT, I'm sure that's not what you're getting at. So, why don't you explain to me how all the blacks in Detroit really are dangerous criminals...
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08 Nov 2014, 12:07 pm

I know for a fact people do not consider me safe/law abiding or even human at first glance.....I have seen people very obviously go out of their way to avoid me, when I am just minding my own business, perhaps that would happen even more if I had inherited darker skin like my dad and sister and some cousins but I look white. So I don't know I am in a rather weird position since native american is considered a minority and white isn't and I am both so yeah. All I know is people with white skin can face discrimination for various reasons....seems like sometimes when white privlege is discussed it comes off in a manner that seems to imply if you have light skin you wont be discriminated against. Also that people of minorities are only discriminated against due to race. Thing is discrimination in general is a problem its not limited to racial discrimination though that is an important part of it.

Also in my area its more like if you look poor the police act like you've done something regardless of skin color, but I also do not live in a predominantly white area either.


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08 Nov 2014, 1:06 pm

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BUT, I'm sure that's not what you're getting at. So, why don't you explain to me how all the blacks in Detroit really are dangerous criminals...
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The honor of white people being viewed as less dangerous is based on perceptions that associate black people with inner city ghettos, violence, crime, drugs, and gangs.



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08 Nov 2014, 1:58 pm

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I know for a fact people do not consider me safe/law abiding or even human at first glance.....I have seen people very obviously go out of their way to avoid me, when I am just minding my own business, perhaps that would happen even more if I had inherited darker skin like my dad and sister and some cousins but I look white. So I don't know I am in a rather weird position since native american is considered a minority and white isn't and I am both so yeah. All I know is people with white skin can face discrimination for various reasons....seems like sometimes when white privlege is discussed it comes off in a manner that seems to imply if you have light skin you wont be discriminated against. Also that people of minorities are only discriminated against due to race. Thing is discrimination in general is a problem its not limited to racial discrimination though that is an important part of it.

Also in my area its more like if you look poor the police act like you've done something regardless of skin color, but I also do not live in a predominantly white area either.


Yeah, what you're describing is what sociologists call intersectionality. Light skin gives you certain advantages (this also happens among African Americans). Being a young woman gives you certain disadvantages. Your social class also gives certain advantages or disadvantages. Even your taste in music can give you a disadvantage (e.i. if you dress like a metalhead).

This sort of thing happens to everyone. I'm mostly Irish and Native American. I have pale skin, but I have dark hair and eyes and native features. As a kid I was called Chinese and gook because my eyes seem vaguely Asian. As an adult I've been described as "that pale Mexican" more than once...

When I was a kid, late teens/early twenties, I was into grunge and metal. I used to wear ripped up jeans and flannel shirts with the sleeves cut out. I came from a fairly middle class family but I certainly didn't look it. One day my mom sent me down to the county sheriff's office to get something. She was a social worker and she used to do lots of charity stuff with the sheriff's association. Anyway, it was summer, and I was working as a landscaper. I went into the office in my dirty, ripped jeans, flannel shirt, all sunburned and sweaty. The lady at the front desk ignored me for a long time as she and a coworker conversed about 'white trash.'

After I finally said, "Excuse me, but I need to get back to work," she rolled her eyes and asked me what I needed in a very sh***y manner. After I told her my name and why I was there, she got this panicked/embarrassed look on her face and told me how sweet my mom was as she got me her stuff.

Privilege has to do with how many traits you share with the dominant class. The more you share, the more privileged you are.

Rich, attractive, tall, fit, WASPish men are at the apex.

Even now, in school I often get written off as being dumb. I'm in the process of applying for a very competitive professional program at university. I went to see the undergrad director because I needed to get a extension for a volunteer requirement because I was in the hospital and couldn't do it on time.

He basically told me that it was impossible and discouraged me from continuing my application. I told him that I'd already read the policy and that I knew it was, in fact, VERY possible (in a nice way). Then we chatted for a few minutes and I reminded him of a project I did for him in an online class. After this, he remembered who I was and his whole attitude changed because he was judging me on my work instead of my appearance.





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08 Nov 2014, 2:06 pm

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GoonSquad wrote:
BUT, I'm sure that's not what you're getting at. So, why don't you explain to me how all the blacks in Detroit really are dangerous criminals...
:roll:

The honor of white people being viewed as less dangerous is based on perceptions that associate black people with inner city ghettos, violence, crime, drugs, and gangs.


Yes, I don't disagree with that at all.

The problem here is one of generalization. Many whites are violent, criminals, and drug users, but thanks to white privilege they get the benefit of the doubt.

Many blacks are law abiding, nonviolent, and drug free, but thanks to latent racism and things like the Thomas Theorem they don't get the benefit of the doubt. That's wrong and it has consequences.

Just ask Trayvon Martin or Michael Brown... oh, wait...


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08 Nov 2014, 2:57 pm

I'm commenting a little late here, as the conversation seems to be drifting away from the article, but I for one - -

GIVE IT MY STAMP OF APPROVAL!

I hadn't thought of it before, but yes, the word douchebag best describes overbearing 1%'s and those who want to be them. While I don't exactly agree that Bruce Wayne is a dbag, I think the author is spot on that Tony Stark is, while Peter Parker, Clark Kent, and Captain America are not.
Funny thing is, with the description of the hipster as artsy, over educated, and under employed, I thought, "Hm, sounds very familiar." :lol: Not that I make any such claims on that identity myself, as hipsters have too many social rules to follow, I much preferred the label of bohemian.


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08 Nov 2014, 3:00 pm

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The implication of saying privilege is casting blame to me, it's loaded language. I don't ignore inequality, the poor experience and black experience in this country overlaps quite a bit and I think as way racialism is a way of diverting attention away from this class issue. As I mentioned I feel I have a great deal of sympathy for you minorities and that comes from my person experience, you mention cops well I got some stories for you. Turns out cops don't particularly care for long haired whiteboys much either, I had some pig pull a gun on last year taking a walk with my brother at night because apparently somebody was looking over fences in the area as if that's sort of excuse. I'm not great communicator and I think I rub authority figures the wrong way for some reason but I'm still able to do the shuck and jive these fascists want you to do in these situations, I worry people like my brother who is intellectually disabled making some wrong move with these paranoid weirdos. I grew up hating cops, I grew up in an environment you didn't talk to them in, I feel I understand a lot of what blacks and minorities go thru when it comes to cops and I feel I pay the heed to it more than enough in my beliefs.

Everybody is unique and deals with there specific personal struggles and discrimination or whatever, someone who may be "privileged" may more than make up for it in another facet. You can say white people live life on easy mode, that's offensive and I think you should be able to see that. Privilege implies to me a weighing of their worth as a person, we might not even be that far away in what we believe but that's hateful language in my opinion and it helps no one. Dr. King summed it up nicely when he said "hate begets hate". You can't sum up somebodies life experiences by just their color or outside appearance.


These different privileges that people speak of, they don't overwhelm everything else is life you encounter, but that doesn't mean they have no effect either. Belonging to certain groups makes it less likely we'll be subjected to certain treatment. Belonging to certain groups makes it more likely shortcomings or failures will be overlooked or treated leniently. In the US and Canada there are benefits socially to being white, to being male, to being cis-gendered, to being heterosexual, to being NT, to fitting societal beauty norms and so on (many of these apply outside of Anglo-America, but in other societies other categories find favour). These benefits are mostly unperceived unless one is actively trying to spot them, the people who benefit from them did nothing to cause the circumstances, so why would they be hated for not having been subjected to additional hurdles? Having a different life experience (which is what all these different privileges added up really amount to) doesn't impact your value as a person (why would I, as a (mostly)white hetero cis male argue against my value as a person?)

Really, the main thing all of this means is that we should be certain to listen to members of these various groups when wanting to understand their life experience. It shouldn't be unreasonable to say that an autistic will better understand the experience of life as a person with autism, blacks better understand the life experience of a black person, transgendered individuals better understand the life experience of a transperson and so on. When members of disadvantaged groups discuss disadvantages they've encountered there's a high probability they might actually have a clue what they're talking about.

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As for Malia and Sasha going into a store, it's not about even recognizing them. Some female black female teenagers in designer clothes isn't going to judged the way some weird fringe looking dude. Perhaps you'd be right if we were walking into some bait shop out in the country but then again, I probably wouldn't feel comfortable walking into some random black barbershop either. Individuals are what count, people's life experiences aren't defined by race.


Class undeniably bring privilege too. There's many ways they may be read, with a number of elements that colour their perception This is true with every individual, I wouldn't try to argue otherwise. But, that said, it's undeniable that race is one of the elements of ourselves that people use to make blanket assessments of our value as individuals. People who appear and identify as white on average tend to receive different treatment from society in a number of situations. It's not that people's entire life experience is defined by race, but race is one of the aspects of one's identity that impacts one's life experience.


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08 Nov 2014, 3:33 pm

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I'm commenting a little late here, as the conversation seems to be drifting away from the article, but I for one - -

GIVE IT MY STAMP OF APPROVAL!

I hadn't thought of it before, but yes, the word douchebag best describes overbearing 1%'s and those who want to be them. While I don't exactly agree that Bruce Wayne is a dbag, I think the author is spot on that Tony Stark is, while Peter Parker, Clark Kent, and Captain America are not.
Funny thing is, with the description of the hipster as artsy, over educated, and under employed, I thought, "Hm, sounds very familiar." :lol: Not that I make any such claims on that identity myself, as hipsters have too many social rules to follow, I much preferred the label of bohemian.


As a comic geek, I cannot pass this post up...

I some incarnations Bruce Wayne ACTS like a douche, such as in the Nolan films... Remember the hotel fountain scene?

In the comics, especially these days, he's much less of a douche. He's usually portrayed as a well meaning, if pampered, philanthropist.


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08 Nov 2014, 3:35 pm

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Kraichgauer wrote:
I'm commenting a little late here, as the conversation seems to be drifting away from the article, but I for one - -

GIVE IT MY STAMP OF APPROVAL!

I hadn't thought of it before, but yes, the word douchebag best describes overbearing 1%'s and those who want to be them. While I don't exactly agree that Bruce Wayne is a dbag, I think the author is spot on that Tony Stark is, while Peter Parker, Clark Kent, and Captain America are not.
Funny thing is, with the description of the hipster as artsy, over educated, and under employed, I thought, "Hm, sounds very familiar." :lol: Not that I make any such claims on that identity myself, as hipsters have too many social rules to follow, I much preferred the label of bohemian.


As a comic geek, I cannot pass this post up...

I some incarnations Bruce Wayne ACTS like a douche, such as in the Nolan films... Remember the hotel fountain scene?

In the comics, especially these days, he's much less of a douche. He's usually portrayed as a well meaning, if pampered, philanthropist.


Agreed.


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08 Nov 2014, 5:30 pm

Kraichgauer wrote:
I'm commenting a little late here, as the conversation seems to be drifting away from the article, but I for one - -

GIVE IT MY STAMP OF APPROVAL!

I hadn't thought of it before, but yes, the word douchebag best describes overbearing 1%'s and those who want to be them. While I don't exactly agree that Bruce Wayne is a dbag, I think the author is spot on that Tony Stark is, while Peter Parker, Clark Kent, and Captain America are not.
Funny thing is, with the description of the hipster as artsy, over educated, and under employed, I thought, "Hm, sounds very familiar." :lol: Not that I make any such claims on that identity myself, as hipsters have too many social rules to follow, I much preferred the label of bohemian.


But I thought the whole point was not to have a strict set of social rules to follow and dislike of modern mainstream 'culture'....not that I know anything about such topics.


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08 Nov 2014, 6:06 pm

got a little tiring when it started talking about white privilege. I'm sorry, but white privilege only exists in the places it's meant to, right in the middle of white dominated cultures. Our place in the world basically. Im sorry but thats just a reality of existence. English speaking whites dominate english speaking white cultures. Everyone needs their place in the world where their ethnic group comes first and gets special treatment, and equality comes from the fact that we all have something like that, all of us, providing we werent silly enough to move to some other cultures special place in the world.

The reason why white insults dont work is because he's using them smack in the middle of a white country. The whole country is at their back and it makes the insult meaningless.

Call someone something to do with being white when you're right in the middle of a non white country and the effect is completely different. There's menace to the word gringo when you're in the middle of mexico. Call a white a gaijin when he's in japan and the word hurts.

Then try and stand in mexico or japan and call either a mexican or a japanese person some name connected with their ethnicity. It falls completely flat.

The power of words change as your location changes. And that's the simple reason why white insults dont work on american soil but can be just as offensive when you're in a different country and you really are the outsider and considered inferior because you're not one of the locals.

It's the same as how you can get laughed at when you're in the company of a load of rednecks for saying something intelligent, but then you're in the company of intelligent types and theres a lone redneck getting insulted and the red neck is the one that stands out.



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08 Nov 2014, 6:22 pm

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got a little tiring when it started talking about white privilege.

The reason why white insults dont work is because he's using them smack in the middle of a white country. The whole country is at their back and it makes the insult meaningless.

Call someone something to do with being white when you're right in the middle of a non white country and the effect is completely different. There's menace to the word gringo when you're in the middle of mexico. Call a white a gaijin when he's in japan and the word hurts.

Then try and stand in mexico or japan and call either a mexican or a japanese person some name connected with their ethnicity. It falls completely flat.

The power of words change as your location changes. And that's the simple reason why white insults dont work on american soil but can be just as offensive when you're in a different country and you really are the outsider and considered inferior because you're not one of the locals.

It's the same as how you can get laughed at when you're in the company of a load of rednecks for saying something intelligent, but then you're in the company of intelligent types and theres a lone redneck getting insulted and the red neck is the one that stands out.


Congratulations. With your examples you just illustrated the entire point of the article. AND, you didn't even have to read it!

Hey everyone! Check out the big brain on dimwit!
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The reason why white insults dont work is because he's using them smack in the middle of a white country. The whole country is at their back and it makes the insult meaningless.

this is EXACTLY what white privilege is in the context of the article...


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08 Nov 2014, 6:24 pm

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dimwit79 wrote:
got a little tiring when it started talking about white privilege.

The reason why white insults dont work is because he's using them smack in the middle of a white country. The whole country is at their back and it makes the insult meaningless.

Call someone something to do with being white when you're right in the middle of a non white country and the effect is completely different. There's menace to the word gringo when you're in the middle of mexico. Call a white a gaijin when he's in japan and the word hurts.

Then try and stand in mexico or japan and call either a mexican or a japanese person some name connected with their ethnicity. It falls completely flat.

The power of words change as your location changes. And that's the simple reason why white insults dont work on american soil but can be just as offensive when you're in a different country and you really are the outsider and considered inferior because you're not one of the locals.

It's the same as how you can get laughed at when you're in the company of a load of rednecks for saying something intelligent, but then you're in the company of intelligent types and theres a lone redneck getting insulted and the red neck is the one that stands out.


Congratulations. With your examples you just illustrated the entire point of the article. AND, you didn't even have to read it!

Hey everyone! Check out the big brain on dimwit!
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08 Nov 2014, 6:28 pm

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:roll:


Dude, I'm not sure what the eyeroll's for, but I WAS being sincere.
You got it right.


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