I think Aspergeans should NOT have children

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The opening post is certainly one that got my attention, but not in a good way.

Husband and I are both aspie, and we did have a child: we have a teenager. He's great. He's intelligent, he has a lot of friends, he plays a lot of sport, he's having a great life. He does have a disability of his own, but he's playing to his advantages and with a good school and lots of support and modern technology, I see no reason why he can't do anything that he so wishes.

Yes, on the spectrum of autism and related conditions, there is a lot of suffering. I've had some years of my life when I've struggled just to survive, let alone enjoy it. But I learned....and I learned mostly to play to my strengths, and it works in the end.

I also know a heck of a lot of NT parents who are utterly hopeless: Cruel or neglectful beyond belief. I don't think being Aspie means you're bound to be a poor parent or that your children will have the same experiences of life as we did.

If people need extra support and find that there's none out there, that's a failing of society, not of the person who needs the support. What we need to do is to ensure that society provides the right support to help any parent, whether NT or AS, to do their best, and helps all children to feel valued and loved for what they are. Wouldn't that be something worth the effort?

evilmonkey, if you compare this forum to NT ones, then you will notice that there is a distinct lack of social propping and soothing going on in the threads. Each of our posts are an island unto itself.

Evilmonkey, I have an immediate disliking to you.

After all the reading I've been doing lately, especially here, I am reasonably sure I am an Aspie, and that my father is as well. But I will speak here as someone with another spike on the spectrum...Tourette's Syndrome.

Evilmonkey, you are doing to us exactly what the NTs have tried to do to us all of our lifetimes. You're taking a cookie cuter and expecting each of us to fit into it's boundries. Even worse, you're taking the sterotypes of a disease YOU claim to have and forcing them on a drop of diverse people. Spectrum. Look it up. Learn, it use it, love it.

And a final point...if there was one, sterotyped, very definitive set of behaviors for Aspergers, wouldn't diagnosis be a hell of a lot easier then? If every person with AS was the same, then people wouldn't be misdiagnosed, etc. Agreed?

I don't think anybody should have kids. Humanity needs to die.

If I hadn't had children, then these wonderful creatures wouldn't be in the world...



What's asperger's got to do with it?

I thought aspies were highly intelligent, very good at math and science, but then I came to this forum and read dozens of messages from people claiming to be aspies admitting they went to special ed classes in grade school or had to drop out of college because of their condition. Of course, academic achievement and intelligence are two different things, but let's just say that I came here expecting a slightly different crowd.

I know, I am not good at putting positive spins to my observations.