pandabear wrote:
I thought that homosexual men primarily boned each other up the bum. In what activities do they usually engage?
Yay! Someone asked!
It's a lot simpler than you would think. Consider how you behave with your own sexual partners. Do you really think about what you are doing? Usually, you don't. Gay men usually engage in general love-making, and they stimulate each other by any means that are convenient and effective. Like you and your partner, gay men can have insecurities about whether they are really satisfying their partner. Like you and your partner, they occasionally--although not necessarily often--enjoy experimenting with new ideas,
some good and some not so good. Therefore, the answer to your question is simple at its root, but it would be very difficult to speak for all or even a significant minority of gay men
as far as the details. All of them will have their own way of trying to keep their partner happy, just like you and your partners have a unique sort of sex life. In the end, all you really care about is making the person you love feel good.
As far as why many gay men don't even make much effort at anal sex, I'll answer that pretty simply: it is difficult, awkward and occasionally painful. Gay men enjoy using hands, feet and objects to stimulate that area externally, but they are often as uneasy as anyone else about "burying the bone in the dirt." The ones who do would only engage in what is called "bare-backing" with a partner they have known for a long time and know, without much doubt, to be "clean." To have any real likelihood of getting into that,
you would almost have to be either more than a little tipsy or on some kind of drugs. Normally, if you try something like that, you're doing it for the same reason any heterosexual couple may try something different: you like making your partner happy, and you are willing to do weird things if it might have that effect to do so.
Therefore, the question of, "
if you don't do each other in the bum, what do you do?" is answerable simply with, "whatever brings satisfaction to our love-life."
The details are up to the individual's imagination and ingenuity!