Nice guys and feminists

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Oh ok.



As for you, vigilians: No Comment.

In other words, you don't really grasp evolution, women, or the evolution of women.

Gotcha.

awwww, that's too bad

Lack of social contact will most likely lead to a lack of social relationships.

As for the rest, you sound like a sensitive soul, and emotional parasites like to feed on "sensitive souls." Please be careful.

What does the moistening of the vagina have to do with being nice guy or jerk? Usually the moistening of the vagina is if the female finds the male desirable and worthy of recieving his genes and she likes the guy enough. I know this might seem strange but honestly and truthfully I see women usually turned off by jerks.They prefer a man/or woman who looks at them eye to eye on the same level as a human being.

Tis true. It's cute how he's trying oh so hard to sound like a Pick-Up Artist "guru"........When he has no idea what he's talking about.


Also, an Aeon is a period of time lasting 1,000,000,000 years. Modern humans evolved in a time period of no more than 0.01 Aeons and first emerged fully ~0.001 Aeons ago.

It usually takes quite a bit more than the SIGHT of an attractive guy to get a woman moist down there.....

Most women I've known IRL don't get turned on by sight as much as they do by suggestive talk as well as heavy petting.

Ill be sure to be careful I do not have a repeat of what happened a few years back.

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Dear God, there's some nonsensical rambling s**t here. I don't get this obsession with 'nice' vs 'jerk', and as for 'strong' I think what people (men and women) respond to most in all sorts of ways (romantic and otherwise) is a strong personality. That doesn't mean cocky or obnoxious, though those are two things that can be confused for strong, and can stand out in a pub/club situation, sure. It means confidence and respect (to yourself and others), someone who can be depended on.

There's a short story/modern fable I recall that comes to mind: The cruel woman met the selfish man and, drunk, they went to bed. As they undressed, she looked at his cock and, with a sneer, asked, 'And who are you hoping to please with that?'. The man smiled and answered, 'Myself'. And they lived happily ever after.

I'm a man - yeah, you heard right - and I am constantly surprised and disturbed at what I am supposed/expected to find attractive, or want in a woman. ('All men want x' - well, f**k you. I'm a man, and I don't. Falsified!) I may be in a minority, but I doubt it's a minority of one. And I don't see why the same wouldn't be true of women. Instead of telling yourself what women want, or even telling women what they want, or what someone has hypothesised their biology makes them want, why don't you ask a few?

Yes that is exactly how I am.

Again this exactly describes my situation.

It looks like I'm not alone.My life is a lot like welcome to the NHK.

It doesn't seem that Jennifer realized that my taking her out of desperation was the source of the problem. I mean, she spent enormous amount of time trying to "train" me (including taking me to the dance class, teaching me how to drive, and so forth) while I was bitter she was "disracting me from my physics". Towards the end of the relationship we actually had a big fight when I kept telling her that career is number 1 and she kept telling me that family is number 1. The other kind of problem we have with Jennifer (probably even more serious in her mind) is when my parents didn't approve of her they tried to make plans that would conflict with plans I have with Jennifer, and I wouldn't stand up to my parents. Despite the fact that she was open about everything, she never confronted me about the fact that I took her out of desperation, so probably she never realized that part

Then there was another girl, Jax, whom I had long distance relationship with after Jennifer broke up with me, and it was same story. Yes there were some things about Jax I liked (in particular her faith) but then there were a bunch of other things that were turn offs. So, overall, I was with her out of desperation, and THAT was probably why I wasn't putting my best into relationship. Yet, Jax didn't realize it either. She assumed it was because of my "autism" that I can't possibly do any better (and annoyingly enough she kept calling it "autism" even though my actual diagnosis is Asperger which is milder than autism). Now, usually when I tell about my diagnosis it is either in my favor (some of the things I do are forgiven) or it makes no difference at all. Yet in case of Jax it was against me -- she used autism as a reason not to be with me. I eventually found it so annoying that she kept blaming it on autism that I was yelling her over her head "no it is not autism, it is the fact that I don't find YOU attractive enough". Yet she didn't seem to hear it. Eventually I resorted to sending her links from A YEAR AGO where I was asking people how to get rid of her in order to make her see my point (http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt168658.html). So you see, Jax didn't see I was with her out of desperation either nor did she see it was my attitude TOWARDS HER rather than in general -- after all it took that much for ME to try to show HER thats the case

On the other hand there was another girl, Anne (http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt5922.html), who DID think I was settling on her (well, she only mentioned that once, so I am not sure how significant that is on a grand scheme of things; but still the fact that she mentioned it means that it possibly was; what she said was that if I am such a loner then "of course" I would want to be with her). But ironically in case of Anne that was NOT the case. As a matter of fact I met Anne in 2005 and I am still obsessing about her DESPITE the fact that I had 5 girlfriends after she was gone. Yet I am sure she doesn't think so, she probably assumes I never had anyone else and thats why I am so obsessed over her.

So it is rather ironic that the girls on which I WAS settling never realized that was the case, yet Anne who was PERFECT on me thought I was settling.

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Or the ones who don't constantly whine about how they're so nice but the b*****s won't sleep with them.

So here's the deal Roman:

In order for a relationship to have ANY chance of working out long term, there has to be legitimate mutual attraction.

If a woman is not attracted to you, she's not gonna wanna be your gf and your behavior towards her won't change this not matter what. If you are not truly attracted to someone, it's better to kindly and politely reject her than to lead her on by lying to yourself and to her about your true feelings. Being a feminist will NOT by itself improve your sex appeal! Obviously feminist women generally prefer to date feminist men, but the feminist men they select aren't chosen just because of their socio-political beliefs....They also have to be (sexually)attractive.



I have only had 3 actual girlfriends. The first one, Christine, was by far the best and the promising. The second only lasted a month and was hardly a relationship but it was a relief since when I met Pearl(gf #2) I hadn't had anything for the last 6 years. There were 2 other women I met before Pearl(and after Christine) who did have the hots for me but I didn't find them attractive so I rejected them(albeit quite gently). The third one, Martha, was a disastrous Long Distance Relationship and I really regret dealing with her as there were other options much closer that I should have taken advantage of. UGH. I've gone on quite a few dates since then(in the last 4 years) but they haven't worked out. FML. Even so, I will not give up hope.