From what I see in popular culture, and I do not mean what I see on TV or hear about on the Internet, as I have developed the ability in extraversion to really get out there and socially interact with literally thousands of people mostly non-verbally in dance throughout the course of one month:
In my observance of their overt behaviors, it is women who are winning the battle of the sexes that is as age old as any other conflict 'by miles' for only one simple reason.
They are much more balanced these days in developing both the masculine and feminine elements of their human being.
Meanwhile, most of the guys are basically walking robots, afraid to break out of line, of their polarized masculine roles, never learning the grace of life in both movement and emoting emotions that truly make a human being both strong in physical strength and emotional resistance to actual disease, as the repression of emotions is known in even science now to be a major contributor to both stress and human illness.
And in the oldest battle of the sexes in pursing reproductive freedoms, whether it be seeding the herd for men, or choosing 'wisely' for women, that battle in the dance halls of life, that I do directly participate still on a weekly basis, is being solidly won by women, as they are objectified more by males than ever, and women are getting a handle on the power of their sex over men, more than ever too, and fighting back solidly with it, overall.
And when they care not to participate they just gang up and dance with each other, as apparently overt bisexuality is more common among women than ever before, perhaps not to the full degree of actual sexual relations but still very touchy feely with no problem getting intimate on the dance floor.
Meanwhile guys are playing the same basic gender roles that they have played for the last century of "I gotta be macho and dominate to make my way".
Meanwhile, truly, for the most part it is the women that are having their way more and more now, not just on the dance floor, but in the working world and in home life too.
So perhaps what the world needs more than anything now, is a man's movement to assert their ability to move out of polarizing gender roles as well, but ha-ha, the culture of homophobia is too entrenched for that ever to happen, except for men who are secure enough in their masculinity to grow as a human being, no matter what the truly weak men try to attempt to do, to hold them back, from being more fully human being.
I love a strong woman, and hated the old ways of weak submissive women, and love every minute of it, even married now for almost 25 years. Yes, I can appreciate a great challenge still from the sidelines, of again, the greatest battle ever actually participated in, yes, the battle of the sexes.
And true those women are leading the way to world peace, perhaps eventually, as the conflict between patriarchy and matriarchy/egalitarianism has been cycling in human cultures as long as human artifacts have been around.
Humans are born to be free, and egalitarianism is the best way currently understood to make that intrinsic instinct a reality for human beings. Even the women in the middle east are getting their taste of freedoms, and it is a powerful thing, that they too, will not likely let go of now, until they too, can exercise the natural masculine elements of their being, greater free.
And as always it will take a lot longer for men, as sadly they seem to be the much weaker sex when it comes to the will to be brave enough to express their full human being, both masculine and feminine.
And I was too in my patriarchal upbringing in a red stated repressed oppressed way of polarized gendering culture. But no more, and in expressing my feminine side I have become more of a man than ever before, both in strength and grace and most importantly emotional balance where for metaphor when need be I can cry and kick ass too. :)
Real human power comes from will, grace, emotional balance and most importantly unconditional love.
Humans innately are evolved to live this way as social cooperative animals that share the similar empathy gene and empathy related brain structures with their cousin primate the bonobo that no other primates share.
And in observing the primate Bonobo, in the wild they use sex; yes bisexual sex, as a way to avoid violent conflict. This is nature's way, and humans are still far far away from their nature, as the Kinsey report showed on human sexuality, only 4% of humans are heterosexual only leaning and 96% of the others have some element of both leanings per attraction to both genders, when the truth comes out, and additionally only about a third to half of human beings are actually monogamous at core, which does include members of both genders.
Culture can mold humans into almost anything against their human nature; history proves that over and over, and in our current cultures too, per example of female genital mutilation, where some women love this truly horrific practice as one to increase their social status.
People will believe and act on almost anything, if it means social acceptance into whatever social norm is presented to them.
And that makes perfect sense, as survival for scores of thousands of years, is completely linked to how successfully a person fits in to the social norm of the social group unit.
Culture and our ability to live less interdependently on others, for our subsistence, allows more people to go against the social norm, and be happier when the social norm goes against their basic human instincts of nature. That is definitely a healthy thing, for those folks brave enough, and free enough to truly exercise their human freedom, in a country that does allow it for a person who truly understands their legal rights as an American Citizen.
Women better understand and exercise their rights overall, and are moreover taking advantage of them, for their own well being as human beings, in the only game that really counts, survival and reproductive freedoms.
So yeah, Kudos to women, and men need to pull up their bootstraps, but no, not necessarily in the masculine way, but more in the way of grace and fuller human emotions, the stuff of real human power, that makes us strong both in physical strength, and mental and physical well being in health overall too, over the lifespan.
All of this is in just my opinion, of course.
21 Oct 2014, 6:42 pm
) But whatever the case, I don't get why people get so worked up about it. A man's gotta make himself comfortable, why does it have to be a crime?
