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kraftiekortie
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28 Dec 2020, 3:21 pm

Idaho is really a nice state. The Boise area is not as conservative as most other parts of Idaho.

Please do pursue the internship. And get out of Disability! (I don't begrudge people who must or should be on Disability---but the goal, always, is to NOT be on Disability).



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28 Dec 2020, 4:47 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
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I don't think people would want him to be that way, because we both live in the same place, and I never came across any of this. But he doesn't want to talk about it when I asked him because talking about it makes him feel depressed. So I don't know why he thinks the big city is less judgmental, but wonder what it could be.


The dude is probably gay.

Not very accepted in rural areas, big gay communities in big cities & very accepting attitudes from the majority of non-gays.


Well whatever reason he feels people are judging him, isn't moving to a big city really desperate? I mean why be bothered by what strangers think of you, that don't choose to hang around with?



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28 Dec 2020, 4:53 pm

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Even my social workers are in this mindset, I've heard for years "you need a part-time, minimum wage job so don't lose your disability..."



This is good advice for those that will never able to work high wage jobs that take education and skill you have. But for those that do have skill and can get a job in it, this advice won't work and everyone wants to earn more money when they get that opportunity. My son's therapist decided to start practicing private therapy so she can make more money so now my son doesn't have a therapist anymore because she moved on.


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28 Dec 2020, 5:03 pm

My mother gave me the choice of going on SSI or working. I chose working. Fortunately, it worked out for me.



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01 Jan 2021, 8:17 am

I wonder if part of it is (or originally was) the danger aspect?

If you lived rurally, particularly in the days before extensive education and general knowledge, there were a lot more things which could potentially kill or cripple you if you didn't know what you were doing. To keep safe, you relied on wisdom passed down by the local elders; wisdom which had often been paid for in blood and death over the generations. You didn't eat this color of berry; you didn't go near that kind of tree in winter; you didn't go near the river without friends. You listened to the local elders and did what they said or you often didn't survive (or you got seriously injured). And things which were passed down as wisdom didn't get challenged, because people who challenged them either died or got injured, or they were socially ostracized for going against the village wisdom and the decrees of the elders.

A progressive/exploratory mindset in all but the most curtailed circumstances could not only get you killed, it could get your friends killed. Thinking and acting conservatively could literally save your life.

If you live in the city, however, particularly a modern city in a fairly prosperous nation where there isn't too much income disparity and there are quite a lot of people's rights and (effective) rule of law, the situation is reversed. You're far less likely to be killed or crippled by exploring new things, or challenging past methodologies or mindsets. You're more likely (although of course not guaranteed) to discover something new and interesting, or create a new business, a new fashion, a new social movement. Discovering new advances is easier because you're not likely to have to deal with exploding trees or poisonous berries in your lunch. And while there are still elders and their wisdom, testing and challenging that wisdom is less likely to get you shunned by every single person you really need to be on your side in order to survive, or end up with you dying five miles from any help.

As a result, I can see there being a slight inherent bias between city and countryside mindsets, purely as a result of environmental factors. And the easier it became to travel between the two, and the more that the two could communicate and know about each other, the easier it was for people to relocate to whichever location most suited their own internal conservative/progressive preference, thus exaggerating the imbalance, and reducing the likelihood of people moving away from their own preferred areas.

Once you have that imbalance, too, it accelerates. Do you want to have a high-salary, white-collar job? Or an acting job? You're not going to find most of those in rural areas. Do you want a lifestyle where you can live on five acres and own horses, or grow your own wheat? Damn hard to do in most cities. Better pick up and move... and a lot of people want to fit in with their neighbors, so maybe they adjust their own lifestyles to be more like those of others in the area... and the stereotypes become just that tiny bit more reinforced.