Possible explanation for the "SJW" mindset

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I suppose that after having weathered so many attacks against myself that I have "grown a thicker skin", it seems less than trivial to me for anyone else to feel they are not liked.

I know that people do not like me, but so what? My own father did not like me, and I still became a functional and successful adult.

I also suppose that if people are really all that concerned about being liked, then maybe they should make themselves more likeable.

litmus test.

To clarify and explain further what I'd posted here: viewtopic.php?f=20&t=394080&start=48#p8706091

Members shouldn't dictate how others are expected to respond or demand any particular quality of response, because doing so places an unreasonable burden on others and attempts to pre-emptively redefine how they might have responded.

Instead, members should be permitted to post according to their own knowledge, ability, or interest and not to the expectations of an OP - even if that means responses may miss the point or there is some topic drift, because doing so allows for greater involvement and discussion of other aspects related to the topic.

It's inevitable that some responses might show little understanding of the topic or of its nuances; nevertheless, these should be permitted and not immediately viewed out-of-hand as signifying a deliberate attempt at derailing a thread, or worse, because there are as many ways of responding as there are WP members.

Any topic originator is of course right to have some expectation of what's posted to their own threads but at the same time, a certain degree of generosity is always a good thing when dealing with posts considered to not fully or precisely address the topic at hand.

None of this grants carte blanche to other responses already covered by the site rules and PPR guidelines - or those implied ones addressing blatantly off-topic or trolling posts.

Finally I'd like to apologise unreservedly to Brictoria; I was horrified to read that you felt unwanted or outcast, and that there was a general pile-on attack in progress. That was never my intention and I'm sorry it came over as such.

In my clumsy way I was trying to steer you to be more gentle, to show a little more generosity to the way members respond to your posts, to understand that not everyone responding has or will go into the topic at hand in the same depth as you might have done and that therefore, their responses may not live up to what you expect. But, such is the way of open forums.
So please, be kinder is all I ask.

It seems to me that any general dislike for Brictoria’s posts is directed towards his political ideologies and maybe not so much towards him personally & he’s conflating the two.

He’d probably find he gets along better with others when he’s not posting things they don’t like so much.

I may be wrong, but it also seems he’s upset that there aren’t a bunch of people here that think & feel the way he does about politics, society, government and all things related. Too bad. Is what it is.

Same same goes for any other unpopular opinions or beliefs. Example: I firmly believe that AS can & should be treated. I do that for myself and it’s worked miracles for my work, financial, & social life. You could say I advocate for these things. But what you can’t say is that my opinion & experience is a popular one here I’ve caught a lot of flak for sharing it. So be it. IMO it’s valuable enough to stick to my guns on and that’s that. I can deal with the fact that many oppose me or disagree - that’s life.

I think it would serve Brictoria well to simply accept what is about people agreeing or disagreeing with him and just carry on being himself, and if he chooses to engage in political discussion, do so in a manner that’s conducive to healthy discussion & debate vs flame baiting or getting upset or taking disagreement personally etc. No reason we can’t disagree yet still discuss or debate.

My $0.02 fwiw.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

I have had this happen to me as well, I ask a question about something (usually about myself) and instead I get answers talking about their own experience as well.

Nothing personal Brictoria, this happens to all of us here. I felt no one attacked you in this thread. Only criticized your sources.

Believing that AS should be treated is not the same as believing that AS should be cured.  Sadly, many people see "treatment" and read "cure", or they simply believe that they are one and the same.

No worries, Goldie.  My only real concern with taking a cure for AS is, "Would I still be me?"

As it is, certain prescribed medications seem to mellow out my world just enough for me to get along with more people than I used to.