Henbane wrote:
YippySkippy wrote:
^ I consider myself a "seeker" too, mostly because no other label seems to fit.
I like to discuss religion, but most religious people are defensive to the point of aggressive.
They seem to equate asking questions with hating them or making fun of them.
Or they think I'm trying to change their minds, which I have no interest in doing. I just want to know why they think/believe what they do.
I don't care if you believe god is a bunny who lives in your arse, I just want to know why you think that and what else you believe about the bunny. And if you say the bunny is kind and slaughters people, I expect you to be able to reconcile those two qualities without calling me a punk.
There's ways of doing it though. You can ask questions. But if you judge or accuse then people will immediately become defensive.
Comments such as
"A celebration of a night in which a deity killed many babies and children due to their ethnicity. But they weren't your peoples' babies, so Happy Passover!"
will obviously put people's backs up. You are obviously attacking their festival, in a thread where they are celebrating their festival.
Bear in mind too that some religions have been attacked more than others, and therefore the followers of that religion will be more defensive.
It's a "happy passover" thread in a forum that discusses and debates RELIGION among other things. Beware that anything that gets posted is subject to attacks.
The example you gave here, "A celebration of a night..." IS pointing out a basic fact behind the origin of the Passover celebration. It happened. And not just babies, but the firstborn of every household. That's a lot of people. Pharaoh had been given warning time and time again, he remained stubborn, and God allowed Pharaoh to strengthen his resolve. Why didn't Pharaoh try to seek an escape from the plague of death? I dunno. Maybe he was too afraid of what would happen if he subjected himself to a God the Egyptians didn't worship--keep in mind that the Pharaoh was regarded as a deity in Egypt at that time. Pharaoh made his choice, and thus the death of the firstborn is on Pharaoh's head. This is one of many struggles the Israelites faced and not the last time people would lose their lives for the sake of God's protection of His covenant people. Set against the backdrop of ancient culture, MANY actions we see today as horrible were actually justified when you look at them in context. Responding to statements like these appropriately opens up a broader topic for discussion, and a proper response has the potential to defuse a lot of the malevolent spirit behind such disparaging remarks.
Posts like what you mentioned are intended to upset and infuriate, yet if you examine those words, there is nothing in those words that are untrue. But the wording also reflects the negative bias of someone towards to subject matter. We are allowed in PPR to make such statements, even if those statements are deliberately unkind.
Just don't make the mistake of giving an emotional response to it. If you are RIGHT, then the strength of what you believe will prevail on its own. Often times the emotion that drives such negative bias breaks down into irrational drivel. You know when that happens because you'll see personal attacks right along with poor logic. Expose the illogical responses, gently correct, and see what happens. Someone persists with name calling, then you were never in a serious discussion in the first place. You have won the argument. Move right along.