Fear of abandonment......

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I'm kinda fearful that my family will abandon me for not being Christian. Obviously I used to have those beliefs when I was younger. But as times went on, I realized that I didn't believe in Christianity after all. I even had an epiphany one day in a Bible camp about 5 years ago. My family basically tore into me for it.


Well yesterday I had another epiphany--MAYBE I don't believe in God after all. I am agnostic. Now I am really fearful my family will give up on me, probably even kick me out. What do I do? Even my dad tore into me today about my beliefs, and we're really close. But I can't pretend to share my family's beliefs just to feel safe.


I guess I just wanted to vent. I don't expect anyone to reply.

have you tried reminding them that you are entitled to your views?

if they sill deny you yours; ask them how they would they feel if you didnt acknowledge theirs.

if your family truly abandon you because of religion i would say you are probably better off without them, though i hope this is only your impression and that the reason they might tear into you, especially if they are devout christians, is because they love you and cannot understand why anyone would deny the religion you were brought up with.

What does it mean "kick you out"? Do you live with them? Do you have to? Or will it just ruin your relationships?
If you are not dependent on them - lets die the cast. You are 28, you have to live by yourself, not like someones obedient pet.

I live at home yes with my 2 oldest brothers and grandfather. But I pretty much live a separate life from them. We don't really talk unless they need something done around the house.

Why is it important to you to tell them? You barely speak to them anyway, so why make a point of sharing your religious views? A lot of my relatives would be shocked to hear I'm agnostic, but that's okay because they won't be hearing it.

Stay low-key and keep your scope down. With our destiny, sometimes we must be quite diplomatic. It will not be being phony, it will be surviving. Keep seeking on your own. Research ad infinitum. You will survive it all.

Well, I talked to my dad this morning. We agreed to disagree on the whole religion thing. Everything is good between us again.




Th anks for your support. I appr eciate it a lot!