I think it's important to have group celebrations, it's a way human beings have been for as long as we know humans have existed - and it doesn't seem to matter what beliefs or non-beliefs are involved, that coming together seems important to me.
I wish that in the US instead of Christmas being a legal holiday, we had floating holidays to cover the religious ones, so that people who celebrate the Solstice or Hanukkah, or any other holiday of their choice, can take that time with their families. Some employers give people their birthday off, but make it a floating holiday so they don't have to take it on their birthday, so there's already a precedent for this.
To me the get-togethers at this time of year are more about family and friends and staying in touch. I celebrate the Solstice with my spouse (not because of any belief, but because it seems to make sense to us to celebrate the end of the shortening of days in winter), and we got together with some family members a couple of times for different reasons - a marriage dinner, a lunch for no reason except that I hadn't seen my sister in ages - and we just make the most of it being accepted this time of year to visit. We really don't see them enough - which is fine with me most of the time, hermit that I am. But I do need my loved ones, and I do need to see them now and then. The visits make this time of year better for me.
I understand not wanting to enter a church. I usually do it with reluctance, though there are weddings and funerals I will attend in churches, just because I care about those particular people so much. I endure all the religious stuff in order to be there for them. It's a few hours out of my life, but the feelings for those I love are everlasting.
ETA: To me, today (Christmas Eve) isn't a commercial holiday - in fact I avoid that like the plague. It's also no longer a religious time for me (it was for a short time as a teen/young adult). But it is still an important social and cultural holiday, I think. There are aspects of the "meaning of Christmas" that I think are important for everyone - being generous and caring about others, being tolerant - which I think are good to remember at least once a year. I still love some of the old Christmas shows like Rudolph, Frosty and Charlie Brown - because they had a lot to do with simply caring about each other. For me it's also an important family holiday. I have lots of memories of Christmas Eves with my birth family. My parents celebrated their marriage then, and we were all together. I have two siblings out of four still alive, and I think about them and all my deceased loved ones today. So even without the religious meaning - which wasn't emphasized anyway in my family while growing up - Christmas Eve and Christmas still hold a great deal of meaning for me. I extract every bit of good I can from that and throw away the rest.
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