Rampant issues with feminism....

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I have some biblical issues regarding feminism.

Please hear me out.

I know many of you are americans. I'm not. I grew up in Sweden. More to the point, I grew up in the ninties (a VERY feminist decade) in the most feminist town in all of Sweden.

During my upbringing, I came to see feminist ideas as the "official" truth, since all authorities and the media seemed to subscribe to it. I tried most my life to live up to the image of what a "good alternative/progressive guy" was supposed to be...

And it turned out it was all for nothing. Not even the girls/women I had admired as role models seemed to like the allaround nice guy I tried to be, the one they'd said they wanted me to be.

So...in short. I looked up to/admired feminists/women, I took everything they said as truth, and THOSE B'TCHES LIED TO ME!! !

I simply can't let it go. It's lika a christian upbringing, you can distance yourself from the religion, but the values are still kinda ingrained in you...

Congratulations on having grown up.

Ahh yes. Neutered man syndrome.

Forget about them, and satisfy yourself with a trip to Russia or Ukraine.

I''m thinking more like Thailand, but I really appreciate hispanic countries and places where people are more safe in their gender identities, where you don't have to put up with all that questioning all the time...

This is not unheard of then?

I wish all the men who complain about Western women would just move abroad so I didn't have to listen to them. Or if they're happy enough with their mail order bride, why do they need to remind us how abhorrent we are all the time? If they don't like us, why can't they just stay away from us and do us both a favour? Are they trying to make us jealous? It doesn't make me jealous because I don't like men sexually that much; it just gets boring and irritating for me to listen to them tell me what a b***h I am. Pandora's Feminist Box is open, and I have no intention of changing. You might be able to guilt the more heterosexual women into it, but please spare me.

Puddingmouse:

I have "not" complained about women in general. In my view, everyone can live their lives as they see fit.

I don't even have issues with feminists fighting for women's rights.

What "does" disturb me is women/feminists trying to teach boys/men how to "be" in order to be good/successful. I'm not telling "you" how to be a woman. I wouldn't have the faintest idea!

So don't tell me how to be a successful man. Not if you don't know for sure, you're much more likely to do harm than good.

Eh, I'm the kind of feminist who doesn't concern myself much with telling men to do anything because I don't think they'll ever listen. I see feminism as a way of connecting with other women who want out of the gender restrictions in society.

ArrantPariah:

Questioning the gender roles I guess. It's good to an extent but...gender roles (as do all norms) provide a sense of meaning, confort and stability. I can really tell the difference between Sweden and Portugal for instance, or Austria. Everyone seems more calm, "content" somehow.

Puddingmouse:

But thereby you say that men "should" listen to what you're saying, or am I wrong? And not just "some" men, but "all" men...correct?

I see feminism at its best as a means to fight and discuss all gender inequalites. Women have serious power in some contexts. At its worst I see feminism as just a new set of norms, as oppressive and sometimes more as the old ones.