To take from Evan Almighty - If you pray for courage, God does just give you courage, he gives you the opportunity to be courageous.
As a pantheist, I don't necessarily believe that, but it still holds a great spiritual significance to me. The forces in the universe (however you label them) don't control you, they don't guide you, rarely do they even point out a direction to you: this life is yours to make of it what you want. When an opportunity comes your way, you either take it or you don't, but it's always your choice. Luck of the draw also exists of course, but you cannot blame luck - you can only blame yourself for not dealing with an unlucky situation.
It all boils down to this D1nk0:
You want control of your life, you want your life to go a certain way.
When that didn't happen, your narcissism took hold and you needed someone else to blame.
Nothing you do is ever wrong, is it?
You blame God, thinking that somehow he's responsible for your life's misfortune.
What you must realize that with control, there is responsibility.
When you make a decision, the results of that decision lay on your shoulders.
When you deny responsibility for your actions, you wallow in your problems.
When you accept responsibility for your actions, you can fix the problem.