I think the part that becomes confusing is why there is a need to let the children, or anyone else in on the fact that they are in drag. If the goal is simply to be true to oneself, ones gender, etc... Why not just offer to read a book to the kids? I'm sure there are plenty of people who defy gender norms everyday, don't you think?
If they have been assigned as male at birth, feel they are actually female. They get up, do the typical female stuff and go about their way. Same with the people born female, feel they are male.
What I have noticed is the females who identify as male are much more interested in 'passing' as male. Many males who identify as female seem interested in people knowing they are male and are dressing as a female. That is odd to me, as it seems that the reaction from others is more what they are after. If it's confusing to me, I'm sure it's confusing to children. I don't understand the desire to confuse others vs. just wanting to connect to others.
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Neurocognitive exam in May 2019, diagnosed with ASD, Asperger's type in June 2019.