iheartmegahitt wrote:
I agree with everything said here. I mean look at Table for 12. They had sets of twins and ended up with one child who has Cerebral Palsy. With that many kids now, Michelle is already risking it all to keep having more kids. It affects the child but her as well, like said with health issues. I agree that this child is more likely to end up with cerebral palsy, Down syndrome or some other condition that will impact how he/she grows.
But in all honesty, I'd kind of like to see how she handles a child who actually does get Down Syndrome or whatever. Maybe then she will realize the higher possiblity she has and stop. I can't BELIEVE she can have that many kids. How the hell do you keep track of that many? It's just... ridiculous. My mom stopped having kids after she had me... she even said that even I'M a handful as it is and she couldn't handle on more child if she could get pregnant (She can't since she had to have her tubes tied, so to speak because she had complications with me when I was born and had to have a c-section.)
But at the same time, its going to really stress her if she gets a special needs baby. I mean with their religion and beliefs, a special needs child will most likely result in serious developmental and learning concerns that I don't think she can handle in the way she does things. She's raised her kids a certain way and just like it is with us who are autistic, think of how it will be for a special needs child who sees the world in a different way. That means she will have to change the way she does things and how she disciplines that child, etc.
I would hate to see her raise a special needs child in the environment they live by... not to be rude or disrepectful but I've seen how she raises them. Because believe me, one child with special needs will turn her world upside down.
Ya a downs kid would be rough for her. Her little kid ladder where the older kid takes care of the next younger kid, repeat repeat down the ladder would not work for a down's kid. As babies, they are very sickly and need alot of medical care and are in and out of the hospital till they are 5-6 years old, then how can you entrust another child to raise a kid with downs by themselves, you cant. They will need alot of skilled one on one and are very accident prone most of their lives due to poor coordnation and a lack of problem solving skills. They develop very slowly, at 8 years old, they are like 2-3 year olds and some are still putting objects in their mouth. By the time they are 20, they are like 6-8 year olds....they never grasp abstract thinking, so in some ways they are stuck developmentally once they get to a certain stage. Like us with autism, some ppl with downs are higher functioning than others. A few are able to live independantly with assistance after 30 or so, most need parrental care their entire lives, some have comorbids like LFA, profound MR, and others
They need physical therapy, cognotive therapy, occupational therapy. However, on the plus side, they are the happiest people on the planet, you could not ask for a happier baby than a child with downs.
As far as her faith goes, I doubt she will see it as a sign to quit adding to the baby train. She would just tell herself, God wont give me more than I can handle, no matter how many special needs kids she will give birth to.
PPl like that think that God expects you to hang your brain on the coat rack next to the bedroom door.
My advise to her....God gave you a brain, and expects you to use it.
Jojo
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12 Nov 2011, 6:04 pm
